"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kissing a girl's hand when introduced

Bonhomme

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In this case (hand kissing), I think it's more about how you do it than what you do. Come across the right way, and you'd be surprised what you can do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rudra

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Bonhomme said:
In this case (hand kissing), I think it's more about how you do it than what you do. Come across the right way, and you'd be surprised what you can do.
+1
exactly

But the handshake thing you mentioned sounds pretty creepy to me if you re not sure about the chick... the hand kissing thing is more innocuous but sensual if done right
 

The Juan and only

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Obv it depends on your personality and technique (like most of the things we talk about on here -- which is why I always say you should find the source of your own sexual power). Anyway, generally I'd say don't do it.
 

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I use a kiss on the hand to hook a brief moment, usually as a result of her laughing or something from me flirting
 

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Frenchconnection said:
Or when ending a convo.


What do you think?

Sounds like a good idea. Next, you can discuss Mozart and perhaps you can invite her to his new play, though she may become quite perturbed at the notion, and remind you his new play has so called "call girls" aka "prostitutes, and other ruffians as a main part of the play, and could create quite the quarrel over the subject!

Or perhaps you could then talk about the great works of Russian novelists these days, such as Fyodor Dostoevsky, or Leo Tolstoy! May I remind you the proper way to do it, or the way a gentleman does it, is to address her as "my dear maiden" and lightly kiss the top of her hand, never the palm, and never too hard to cause undue pressure. Doing this may put you in quite the disposition, and you may henceforth be considered a scoundrel. Or your couth may be called into question.

If this were to happen, I would suggest to not call on her for at least a fortnight, so the memory of the incident can pass.

And can I ask you, is she royalty? If you are a peasant and she is royalty, perhaps you should put the whole idea behind you. If her parents own a manor and she is in the upper class, I'm sure you must at least own some land in the family otherwise she may be outright offended you kissed her hand.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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blackbelt2k said:
no, not unless you want to taste the last guy's **** she j/0
:crackup: :up: :crackup: :up: :crackup:
 

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I don't kiss a girl's hand... A kiss on the cheek is much better....
:yes: Agreed....

Ummm.... Which cheek? :whistle:
 

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and after you kiss her hand, follow with a curtsey.
 

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It depends on where you are, really. In Romania, this is still used to greet a female at times. I think it's an elaborate gesture and far too tasteful for our Brittany Spears' loving society of today.

But if you're dealing with a classy girl who has obviously dressed up for the occasion, I think it might go over quite well. You might follow it up with, "Ever got one of those before? I thought I'd try it. I kind of like it."

So it becomes more of a conversation piece and something to remember you by and set you apart.

It depends on your personality, as well. A guy who might drive a Lexus SC430, who listens to jazz...perhaps a better move than for a guy who likes Jeeps and bleaches his spiked hair.

You can get away with a lot of variations if you know how to play it off, though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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akindofblue said:
You might follow it up with, "Ever got one of those before? I thought I'd try it. I kind of like it."

So it becomes more of a conversation piece and something to remember you by and set you apart.
That´s what I absolutely would NOT do... It should come smoothly and naturally, maybe with an humorous edge to it so she can´t tell if you´re dead serious or kidding... a little playfulness I mean.
But discussing it would be like whipping out a cardboard sign with "look how original I am" written on it... it would definitely destroy the gesture.
 
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Kissing a hor's hAND IN THE 21ST CENTURY IS LIKE KISSING HER ASS, figuratively speaking - a supplicating action!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Kissing a hor's hAND IN THE 21ST CENTURY IS LIKE KISSING HER ASS, figuratively speaking - a supplicating action!!!
LMS read the frigging thread))) The gesture is good when done playfully. If you have a good alpha frame, you can always throw in a little beta or supplicative move to throw her off guard... to not let her know what you are up to.
 

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To me, I just think of all the better kino type moves you could do, and this just flutters away.

Honestly, the odds are against this move. I can't imagine it being incredibly effective, and you never know, some people don't wash their hands after the bathroom. Or they sneeze on it, or whatever else they may have touched. If you go around kissing a bunch of girls' hands, you'll get sick.
 

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Honestly, the odds are against this move. I can't imagine it being incredibly effective, and you never know, some people don't wash their hands after the bathroom. Or they sneeze on it, or whatever else they may have touched. If you go around kissing a bunch of girls' hands, you'll get sick.
In uh...comparison to the other little dirty habits we undertake during sex..?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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