"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kissed my ex's friend but now we're back together

Firedweller

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I broke up with my girl for a couple of months and during the break up I kissed one of her friend's. Now I'm back with her and I don't think her friend knows yet. I'm unsure if she'd tell my girl if she heard I'm with her.

Now I want to be proactive. I know, I was single when I did it but fact remains it's her friend so it changes the dynamics. I imagine if she did that to me then I would forget about her and my buddy.

Should I tell my girl? Or should I just play it cool if it comes up? Problem is her friend would have texts from me basically proving that something was going on.

If I tell her, either when confronted or whatever, what line should I stick to? It'd be easier if it wasn't her friend lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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beyondunplugged

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Don't tell her.

1.) She may never find out. Then you just forget it happened and no harm/no foul.

2.) She finds out and doesn't care or even bring it up.

3.) She finds out and gets pissed and you say "I was single."
 

spax

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The real question is….how did you get your ex back?
 

Cremasta

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Do not be proactive about it. You were single at the time, so it's nothing to do with your gf.

If she does bring it up, be totally unashamed about it. You did nothing wrong, so do not in any way act like you did.
She doesn't own you, especially when you were single. If she's not mature enough to handle that... well, you already dumped her once.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Firedweller

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Okay thanks guys. I know that what I did wasn't wrong in any technical sense but like I said, considering it was her 'friend', I know the heat is a little hotter. I'm just going to ignore it all and hope that her friend has enough wits to her to not prove to my girl that she's no real friend of hers to begin with.

I was out with her last night and she brought up a story which involved the friend and I thought that it was going to go down the path of questioning me as so many girls like to do but it didn't.

Cheers
 

DragonBlood

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Not a big deal.

What about the 3-4 guys your "gf" had SEX with during the break up? Does she feel the need to explain herself too?


I wouldnt even respond because there is no question here to be asked. If it does come up its just because the other girl wants to create some drama in the hope you will break up again. If anything this will just be good for your relationship because you now have a fall back girl if your current gf incites yet another breakup.
 
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