"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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polaris_01

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Im goin 2 be goin out wiff this girl i like but im realy bad with kissing/huggin signals.
we're both a bit shy and i wasnt 2 sure if i should try a kiss.She said us goin out wouldnt work coz i was 2 shy but i really want her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OneArmDeeJay

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Do what ever you want but whatever you do just don't get so stressed out about wheather or not you should kiss her. Just remember to have fun and have a really good time. Make it a night she won't forget and leave her wanting more. So if you want to kiss her during the date then do so. If you want to kiss after the date then do it. There are no real rules.
There are kissing techniques and other threads on this site that talk about this as well. Do a search.
 

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I think looking for signlas is bassically b/s. If she is obviously having a whorable time then don't other then that assume she wants to.
 

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if she doesnt want to be BF/GF becouse your shy dont be shy on the date, show your attention alot dont neccisaraly look for her signals ,make your own signals, if you get good results then try to go in for the kiss,hug or whatever. (ps :dont say "i can change and not be shy for you" just dont be shy) good luck man

eny 1 have advice on how to make a girl ur seein into your GF i know im a newb in a sense on sealing the deal kinda stuff but info on that assortment would be handy for me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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arutha

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I used to be like that.. Then one night I just thought ****it, I'll give her a sexy look and start moving my head closer and see what happens. Well it didn't work out, but it sure was a lot easier than I thought it would be and I'm glad I did.

The sooner you can do something like that, the easier it becomes.
 

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since u appearntly do have 2 kiss in the cinema. how do i go about it?
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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I think when you feel the time is right (during the movie)... (since she's next to you... lets say shes sitting on the left side of you) slowly bring your right hand to her face and using your pointer and thumb finger, gently lead her chin to your face. Lean forward and towards her and turn towards her and just kiss her.

...something like that...
 

arutha

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Whisper something funny right in her ear, then when she turns and smiles at you give her a seductive look and slowly move in..

But you don't have to do it while the movie is going.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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