Kino

[playerone]

Hey guys, i'm sure everyone has read countless articles on how kino should be applied, etc. I was having random thoughts on how everything was going between me and this girl i'm dating, and came up with this question. How can we do light kino on the girl and not appear to her as not being a challenge? I'm saying we're not a couple yet, just going out together like once or twice a week. I have tried putting my arm over her shoulders, in between conversation points, and she reacted immediately by taking my hand off. LOL.

She then told me she didn't like to be touched there, and went on about another guy friend who did that.. etc. So far the only kino we've got going is when i pass my iPod to her, i would hold her hand for like 3 secs and put it in her grasp. Also, we were visiting an electronics store and looking at the cameras. She was figuring how to turn one on, and i held the camera and some of her fingers, as i turned the thing on. This sounds really pathetic to me, but i don't want to seem easy and not a challenge to her, if i keep going on trying to kino her up.

Can i date her without kino at all? Will it even work without kino? Need some advice, thanks.

 

[playerone]

Alright i thought i would give you the whole gist of the story.

I met this girl through a friend sometime back, like almost a year. I started to ask her out, but i was still a wuss back then, knowing nothing about the rules of the dating game. Hence, needless to say, i screwed up and she ended up being attracted to a guy who knew her 2 weeks later than i did. Well, i cut off all contact with her for like almost 6 months. She pm'ed me on MSN, but i just didn't reply to her. However, one fine day recently, i received a pm from her, and decided to reply. Now, we're back and i have been able to crack her up most of the time, and not act like a wuss. She seems cool with it, and when i asked her out once, she couldn't make it so she said sorry, which i replied with a plain "okay", and she initiated the date on another day instead.

Okay, here comes the ****, she is with that guy for 3 months going into a relationship, but she tells me that they quarrelled and stuff.. and on their last date, which was like more than a month ago, they quarrelled again and ended up dating like strangers. So, it was pretty bad and she said she is really disappointed with him. However, on her blog, i saw that guy tell her smth like "what must i do to make you feel more relaxed? and not so stressed up" etc, with some flirting at the end. Then, she replied him with a "haha ^^".

Hmm.. tricky scenario. Anyway, recently i saw her MSN nickname containing some form of message that liberates me to think that she wants an end to their relationship, and i asked her about it. She said she doesn't know whether she wants a breakup, and i told her "Why would you want a guy like that?".. etc. That guy apparently told her that hanging out with his good friend (a female) is better than with her. So, the message sent was pretty clear.

So, what i wanna do is get this girl from that rotten guy.

That's basically it.

 

[Lto Ucas]

Dude I had a somewhat similar situation to this, don't waste your time, if she really wanted to break up with this d-bag she would have already. Until you are 100% sure they are broken up, ignore her like you were doing. Don't take second place to ANYONE. In the meantime do yourself a favor and go and meet a few of the billions of woman that the world has to offer.

 

[playerone]

Yesterday night, i texted her, and then she said she was still outside with the family, so i told her to tell me when she's back inside. She replied okay with a smiley, and then i saw her online while appearing offline myself, no text from her.

I'm currently cutting off from her, till she has something to offer i'll post it here.

Thanks for the reply.

 

[playerone]

Okay here's some updates. I've noticed her MSN nickname, and there's a new part which she says "i knew it! outcast, QUIT." and "maybe.. i don't understand.."

I'm not damn sure if it's referring to me, but a few questions popped up in my mind. If she is referring to me, it means that she is saying i quit halfway into dating her, and she seems pissed by it. And if she's pissed by it, it means she cares that i look her up. So, the question is, i'm going to continue cutting from her? Or start a normal conversation with her and see what happens? Or, if she starts a convo with me, I reply as usual or ignore?

Some advice needed.

 

[Lto Ucas]

This girls sounds a little immature.... I would wait about a week and see if she does anything, if not you could try contacting her after some time passes, in the meantime go and spend some time with other girls and meet new ones, it is the best antidote for a case of oneitis which looks like you have.

 

[Dante420]

Can I get a quick definition of Kino?

 

[daygameguy]

Can I get a quick definition of Kino?

Kino = touch.

Kino has got a negative annotation in my book. In my book kino is something you do when you are afraid of rejection. Kino is something you do when you are too much of a pvssy to sexually escalate. So in my book there is no place for kino. I have replaced it with sexual escalation. Now technically it works just as well as kino escalation (one step at a time), but it has a solid aim attached to its meaning. It has purpose. You see an end result when you think of sexual escalation, and the negative connotation is also removed.