thelonewolflegend
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what do you normally do on a 1st group date?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that's no problem, at least your honest. I'm sure you have made great improvements in the last two years. Of course that means something....regardless of the outcome, you're only a failure if you don't try.....and you're trying.thelonewolflegend said:i have really improved my game but yes I am a little slow but my mental state has vastly improved since 2 years ago (when i first dated a girl i literally would just sit at the table and stare at the bag) now I walk up to girl initate convo and attempt to get her number as awakward as it looks I STILL DID IT fOR GODS sAKES so THaTS GOTTA MEAN SOMETHING