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Kino tips for coffee/dinner dates?

buffalobill

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What types of things do you do during dinner/coffee dates to escalate things kino-wise? Usually, you're sitting across a table from her, so I've found that it's difficult to escalate things physically during the date. Any tips are appreciated!
 

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tsmith2334

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Coffee date situation/ across a table is difficult. Also be careful not to overdo kino or force it.

Too much blatant kino hurts your game rather than helps it

Your best bet? Hand her something across the table and when she reaches to take it from you extend that touch for a second

You can use that to gauge IOI as well. If she pulls away quickly, no dice; if she holds contact/ embraces your touch, it's a green light.
 

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Don't sit across the table. Sit at a right angle, or if it's a booth, sit on the same seat. Touch your thighs against hers. She'll remember you for it.
 

Kailex

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Allurre said:
Stop worrying about kino when you're on a dinner/coffee date. Take a walk together and apply 'incidental' kino then.
THIS is what I was going to say. Is it tougher during the winter? Yes. But it can still be done, and there will always be moments you can pull it off even if you both sit down.
 

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ENIGMA16

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BobMo' said:
Don't sit across the table. Sit at a right angle, or if it's a booth, sit on the same seat. Touch your thighs against hers. She'll remember you for it.
This. If you're unable to do this then don't worry about it; kino isn't everything. If you initiate kino before/after dinner while maintaining eye contact throughout you'll be fine.

Kino is just one method of building comfortability and familiarity. Eye contact is another.

EDIT: Also, attracting women is all about giving off the correct energy; women sense this through all of their senses, and touch is just one of them. If you're giving off the right energy then you don't even have to use kino to escalate attraction. So remember that kino is just a tool.
 

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Set yourself apart from others. In a typical coffee date, the guy sits across her, be different and sit right next to her, pillow talk her, poke her, make fun of her, act stupid and humorous and start massaging her. The best way is to observe and comment on her based on her actions and not by her words.
 

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What about playing footsie? :)
 

909pua

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Footsies is ok but I think if you massage them in the right areas (soft spots and not directly on private areas) you may get to homerun much easier. Its all how you do it, timing, how she feels, your game, etc...
 

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Look a girl is going to show you she is digging you before you even get to do your first "kino move" so dont sweat it and just let it happen naturally. Personally if im sitting across from her I hold her hand when I talk to her that gets things flowin.
 

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Julian is right. Never go after one girl.
 
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