Kino problems

[lokariototal]

I can meet women easily. I'm funny! I'm confident. I have a lot of social value in my university. Decent looks. I know a lot of people and girls, etc .etc. But for some reason, when I do Kino, most of the time I don't get kino back. I dont know why. but I can make initial attraction, after that, i dont know how to escalate.

I also discovered recently that im not romantic at all with girls. SInce i read deangelo and those books i would NEVER do anything sweet for a girl , like buy her a gift or something. I dunno if that has anything to do? I dont even know how much time it takes to get a gf! I just. have a lot of problems at escalating, emotionally and physically

Thanks

 

[Allurre]

Start tapping into more sexually related questions.

Also, if you want to increase your level of kino, don't make it a conscious effort.

A great trick is to treat the girl like a close friend where all barriers to touch are dissolved. Think of her like your younger sister, or a long lost friend since kindergarden.

How would you apply physical contact?

Obviously, don't step out of boundaries by groping or playfully punching in the arm.

 

[DonJuanit0]

I also discovered recently that im not romantic at all with girls. SInce i read deangelo and those books i would NEVER do anything sweet for a girl , like buy her a gift or something.
Thanks

That's not romance btw! Romance is so much missunderstood in our days...

W/e, you certainly don't have to buy gifts for women! Not in first days! Not even in first months if you have a LTR! You won't make her like you by getting her presents! That's what AFCs do...

What is a nice thing you COULD do about a girl without being an AFC?
What about compliments? Like "you look beautiful today" "That's a nice smile you got there".

Compliments are a nice way to make a girl feel nice but don't forget not to over compliment her! There's always a line, don't pass it...

Kino is easy! Follow Allurre's advice and I think you'll be fine! Don't be nervous.

 

[horaholic]

Dont worry about not getting kino back right away. Worry about whether she is resisting it or not. If you put your hand on her leg, and she appears comfortable about it, you're good. She may not reciprocate right away, but thats ok.

A good rule of thumb is to escalate as a reward for her. If she makes you laugh, says something witty, impresses you in any way, reward her with kino escalation. It makes her feel like she's earned your affection, and you have a REASON to kino her.

Hopefully she'll start doing it back. If you make her laugh, she should touch you, and lean into you. You want to hold off on further escalation right there, or you might seem to eager.

Oh, and throw in a thumbwar. This never fails.