"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kino: escalation or match

sam3083

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Lets say a girl touches me in some way (brush of arms, shoulder rub, quick back rub/slide, etc), I now feel it necessary to match this.

For example, me and a girl are walking side by side, I say something funny but self-derogatory, and she taps/rubs me on the shoulder with sarcastic sympathy. I then do the same back to her without thinking, IS THIS WHERE I SHOULD ESCALATE? If so, what kino do i use on her, how can i escalate that.

Another example, I say something ****y and funny to a girl, and she playfully hits me or pushes me away. Should I come back doing the same thing, or escalte it somehow, if so with what?

So, can you guys give me some examples of kino escalation?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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catch her hand when she pushes/hits/slaps you and playfully say if you do that again you will face my bad side or something like that and while holding her hand try to slightly rub it etc..
 

sam3083

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hey, thanks micon thats a good idea.

Let the kino esculation examples keep coming!
 

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juts be playful and let it escalate naturally. your hands brush each other accidentally, tell her you caught her trying to hold your hand and trying to pick you up. just get in the mindset and it'll all come naturally.
 

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^^ I agree, definitely match it! A good side-by-side move: lightly touch the small of her back (just for a second!) when you're saying something to her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Randallpink83

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ESCULATE!!!! FVCKING ESCULATE!!!!! How are you ever going to fvck her if you don't grab her over your shoulder, throw her on the bed and rip her clothes off?????


:D yes animalistic and dramatic... but you should get the idea.


If your always just matching her then she is leading and has the power.... I'm not patient enough to let a girl lead me into bed (it probably wouldnt happen)... I lead... I'm the man.. I'm dominant. I'm Sexual.
 

sam3083

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OK, so while matching kino is reasonable, it seems extremely necessary to escalate the kino.

Hence,a brush on the shoulder from her can be escalated, by me grabbing her hand, giving it a squeeze and then doing whatever.

How about we make a list of common kinos that women do, and come up with textbook kino escalations.

For example; She gestures for a high five - instead of just slapping her hand, I grab it, squeeze it, pull her towards me, and bear hug her.

Can some more experienced kinoers/DJers come up with some more examples. For instance what can be done;

After she brushes my back going to leave some where
Jokingly sympathetic shoulder tapping
Etc
 

Lord Shinra

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Speaking from personal experience, I tend to match and escalate at the same time. Then again, KINO is one of my weaker points. My words make up for that slight weakness.

An example I used not too long ago is:

Girl hit me, playfully tapping my stomach, I tapped hers but "streaked" across her side. I saw her shiver and she called me the next day.
 

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Thats a great example Shinra. She touches you, you call her touch, and raise her a 'streak' across her.

I guess she then called (or re-raised) your streak with the call.
 

Lord Shinra

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Yeah, which I proceeded to call the next day, and set up the date (my re-raise).
Will be on it in about 18 hours. :)

But in all honesty, my KINO could use alot of work. But I honestly think if you have the basics down and youre confident, you can get away with some mistakes in the kino field, as long as it isn't creepy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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