"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Kino during first cold approach, is it OK?

ScrewIt

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What would you guys say to using kino during the first cold approach, right after the EC and greeting. ex: pat on the shoulder or arm. I mean as long as you do it confidently...

Would you say its a bad idea because it's too soon and seems creepy.....and its a better idea to do it after building rapport.

or is it alright to do it during approach??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Use KINO when ever you can! Look for an excuse, shake her hand forever and be C&F at the same time. Hug her after you get her number, use routines where you can kino her while your talking. There isnt a set time to use it. I use it as often as I can and as much as I can, I get very hands on and it works out much better later.
 

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The sooner you get her comfortable with your touch, the easier things are going to become later on. Considering touch is one of the least most neglected things between men and women, touch is a VERY effective way to turn things into your favor.

Believe it or not, the only touching that you SHOULDN'T do is the touching you would do behind closed doors. This is usually direct contact with genitalia or breasts. Pretty much everything else, you can get away with. When I go to a club and I dance with a girl, I touch them ALLLLLLLL over... from the back of their neck down to their inner thighs... and don't forget to grab their ass every once in a while too. Trust me, they love it. ;)
 

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Lingering handshake, touch the fabric of her clothes and comment on it (nice jacket what is it made out of?).......
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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NEVER use kino before gaining rapport.
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
NEVER use kino before gaining raport.
im getting conflicting opinions here, so is it OK or not OK?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
im getting conflicting opinions here, so is it OK or not OK?
You've just approached a woman who doesn't know you, she has no idea about who you are or your personality. How do you think she'd feel if you started touching her? This should be a no brainer.

Consider the same situation and you just ask her for her telephone number. Again, she doesn't know anything about you or your personality. Do you think she will give you her number?

Another example; you approach a woman and out of the blue you ask her out on a date. What are your chances if she doesn't know anything about you?

Without rapport you aren't going to be very successful. You're just going to come off as another AFC without any personality that doesn't get it.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You've just approached a woman who doesn't know you, she has no idea about who you are or your personality. How do you think she'd feel if you started touching her? This should be a no brainer.

Consider the same situation and you just ask her for her telephone number. Again, she doesn't know anything about you or your personality. Do you think she will give you her number?

Another example; you approach a woman and out of the blue you ask her out on a date. What are your chances if she doesn't know anything about you?

Without rapport you aren't going to be very successful. You're just going to come off as another AFC without any personality that doesn't get it.
so true

I don't think a lingering handshake would hurt though.
 
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