"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kino but she has a bf.. how to stop being LJBF'd?

pete101

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I've kino'd this HB from my local gym but she she told me she had a bf in a passing comment.

I'm constantly touching her massaging her etc but nothing too out there to give anything away after i heard about her bf. Alot of the talk between us is serious sometimes which makes me feel im starting to become LJBF'd.. I'm c+f with her, couple of neg-hits here and there but i still get this feeling all of my good work is getting overshadowed by this serious talk which is making me LJBF material. This has happened twice now. What can I do to prevent it getting worse or is it too late?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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comic_relief

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ask her for her telephone number and then ask her out. She will let you know if she is interested or uninterested.

Act like you have never heard that she had a boyfriend.

It is a way of weeding out low interest girls for high interest girls.

comic_relief
 

The Shocker

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agree with comic relief. If she uses the bf, then say great, he can cook us dinner, or something of that nature.
 

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And it might be just a big test. To see your reaction. Use a bf destroyer pattern.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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And what, pray tell, is a bf destroyer pattern?
 

pete101

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explain this bf destroyer pattern pls.. sounds very interesting.

already have her number, don't ask me how. but it wasn't asked in a 'im interested in you and taking you out kinda way..'

straight after she said she had a bf in the flow of convo.. i didn't react to it, she mentioned it again later on but in a response to some other topic.

bottom line is that when she leaves or is around me i don't get that feeling of tension between us, like i don't see any nervousness or anxiousness in her behaviour which would suggest shes interested in me.. hence why i feel i'm pretty much LJBF.. it'll be the 3rd time i see her next time and if i don't shake off that LJBF thing hanging over my head then it'll be too late if it not already is.

any suggestions what to do besides c+f, neg-hits, and kino?

i believe prizeability would be a big issue as in she doesn't see that prizeability yet, as i havent' been social proofed by any other HBs there.

If i don't go up to her, which im planning not to do and she comes up to me, do i act cold and uninterested? it seems very rude and sudden abrupt behaviour.. i'm thinking that before, i've conveyed interest by going up to her.. so if i suddenly remove it. should that not create a reaction from her wondering why suddenly i'm not on her anymore?

how does one act uninterested without being rude?
 
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