I'm relatively new to using kino to "game" or build attraction. I've got a female class mate of mine with whom I've been discussing getting together to study. Any basic tips? Even more helpful would be those which might apply to a casual setting as such. (Hoping to use the setting also as a stage to ask her to get together again sometime outside of a scholarly intent.)
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Kino basics?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Use ur thumb to rub her hand when u shake her,stroke her arm when ur talking to her
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Make you sure you start from "low profile" parts of her body to be more likely to be accepter and not alarm her.
First start with her hands then if she doesnt move it away or get rigid you can move up to the inner forearms, if she doesnt mind it you can get closer to her face while talking and use one of your arms to hug her waist gently.
If all of that its fine to her you can start softing caressing her neck first with the tip of your fingers then with inside of you hand, if shes fine for that too you can go for the kiss on the neck and righter kiss her on her lips.
Just pay attention that sometimes they make a little resistance in the phase between the neck kissing and the lips, but dont get discouraged, they do that because they have to show that they are not easy to give intimacy.
I found in my case that it helps to use one of your hand to agevolate the turning of their heads, you are actually leading them gently.
This is what it works for me but feel free to experiment what works for you, just remember two things:
1)Be gradual and escalate only when the previous touch is welcomed.
2)While you already started a phase move till the end even if she looks at you to see if you know what you're doing, if you just holded her hand and she looks at you dont retreat it as a little b1tch, finish what you are doing but simply postpone any following escalation.
Kino acceptance is actually one of the few sure benchmarks to see her attraction toward you, you can filter intersted girls from attention wh0res.
First start with her hands then if she doesnt move it away or get rigid you can move up to the inner forearms, if she doesnt mind it you can get closer to her face while talking and use one of your arms to hug her waist gently.
If all of that its fine to her you can start softing caressing her neck first with the tip of your fingers then with inside of you hand, if shes fine for that too you can go for the kiss on the neck and righter kiss her on her lips.
Just pay attention that sometimes they make a little resistance in the phase between the neck kissing and the lips, but dont get discouraged, they do that because they have to show that they are not easy to give intimacy.
I found in my case that it helps to use one of your hand to agevolate the turning of their heads, you are actually leading them gently.
This is what it works for me but feel free to experiment what works for you, just remember two things:
1)Be gradual and escalate only when the previous touch is welcomed.
2)While you already started a phase move till the end even if she looks at you to see if you know what you're doing, if you just holded her hand and she looks at you dont retreat it as a little b1tch, finish what you are doing but simply postpone any following escalation.
Kino acceptance is actually one of the few sure benchmarks to see her attraction toward you, you can filter intersted girls from attention wh0res.
Hold on.... if you are looking for basics, you gotta actually start with the basics.
Kino isn't just about "holding hands" and "rubbing her arm". It's not just used to sense her attraction to you.
Kino is a method to break the barrier of personal space. When starting out, it should be used to show you are comfortable being close to her, not that you are working up towards a kiss. And it has to be started right away. If you do it from the start, she will learn that's just who you are and she will be comfortable with that. If you all of the sudden start touching her after multiple meet ups with no physical contact, it's gonna be creepy. She would have thought you guys were "just friends" and now you keep touching her. No good.
Don't start out with anything sexual. At all. You simply need to show her you are comfortable with her. Something small like:
- Putting your hand on her arm as you walk past her, as if to say "excuse me, I'm right behind you".
- Your arm "accidentally" touching hers when you are sitting at the table (but don't pull away quickly like it was an accident. Just act is if it's not happening, or doesn't matter).
- Placing your hand on her back if you lean in to say something.
- Touching a ring on her finger to ask a question about it.
- Lightly pushing her when you are making fun of her.
Just make sure it is NATURAL. Can't stress that enough. If you feel/look timid or shy away, it's going to be really awkward. If you do it naturally and confidently, she will likely respond to it, and then you can eventually escalate.
Just remember that kino shouldn't be sexual. You just want to break down her defenses and get her comfortable having you in her personal space.
Kino isn't just about "holding hands" and "rubbing her arm". It's not just used to sense her attraction to you.
Kino is a method to break the barrier of personal space. When starting out, it should be used to show you are comfortable being close to her, not that you are working up towards a kiss. And it has to be started right away. If you do it from the start, she will learn that's just who you are and she will be comfortable with that. If you all of the sudden start touching her after multiple meet ups with no physical contact, it's gonna be creepy. She would have thought you guys were "just friends" and now you keep touching her. No good.
Don't start out with anything sexual. At all. You simply need to show her you are comfortable with her. Something small like:
- Putting your hand on her arm as you walk past her, as if to say "excuse me, I'm right behind you".
- Your arm "accidentally" touching hers when you are sitting at the table (but don't pull away quickly like it was an accident. Just act is if it's not happening, or doesn't matter).
- Placing your hand on her back if you lean in to say something.
- Touching a ring on her finger to ask a question about it.
- Lightly pushing her when you are making fun of her.
Just make sure it is NATURAL. Can't stress that enough. If you feel/look timid or shy away, it's going to be really awkward. If you do it naturally and confidently, she will likely respond to it, and then you can eventually escalate.
Just remember that kino shouldn't be sexual. You just want to break down her defenses and get her comfortable having you in her personal space.