"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Kino 101

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I am sure by now everyone knows about the power of touching. Kino (touching) is a very powerful tool, which increases, stimulates, initiates, and escalates the interactions between two people to a more physical level. Kino has a way of making a deeper connection with someone, increasing the Kino initiates a chemical reaction within the body. Introducing subtle (not creepy) innocent, tactile movement’s releases a hormone called Oxytocin. This chemical requires estrogen to work effectively. Once in the body, it increases a woman's testosterone level. Kino has a way of developing comfort and rapport instantly.

There are essentially two forms of Kino: direct and indirect, the differences are contingent on proximety, placement, and duration of contact time. Observe any couple, pay attention to the personal space between them, and notice their body language. If you see them all touchy/feely, you know a physical encounter is in their immediate future. When you first meet someone and progress to the Kino stage, you are priming them for romance. Kino is basically a prerequisite for any intimate date.

Essential components in successful Kino include;

1) COMFORT LEVEL-you must be completely comfortable touching a person. If you appear awkward, hesitant/reluctant, unsure, nervous, take too long, etc it becomes unnatural and may not return desirable results. Never ask permission, just proceed like you know what you are doing.

2) PATIENCE-be subtle, smooth, playful and go slow at first, nothings worse than a person who gets all touchy/grabby within the first few moments of meeting them. Never appear rushed, wait for indicators of interest. Failure to do this could result in resistance and lead to creeping her out.

3) KAIZEN-it’s the Japanese word for small incremental improvements. Start with a momentary touch of her hand or gentle touch on the shoulder. You want to avoid coming on way too strong or sexual too early. Keep it relatively short at first as prolonged touching invades a persons comfort level.

4) SKILLS-you body language should be congruent with your Kino and you should be aware of how to introduce Kino in addition to escalation. Start/stop method works wonders here!.

EXAMPLES;

HANDSHAKE-one of the most common and sincere forms of Kino. It is innocent as well as simple to master. A great way to introduce yourself is by shaking hands. Be sure to have a firm grasp, look the person in the eye while remembering to smile.

SIMPLE TOUCH-this is wear one would touch the other person briefly and playfully when say making a joke or illustrating a point. You might gently push someone who poked fun of you to confirm the banter.

STRATEGIC TOUCH-this is slightly more tactile than the simple touch while maintaining innocence. You might notice a cool piece of jewelry (earring, necklace, bracelet, ring, etc) and gently caress their skin making it appear you are checking out their jewelry. You may also do the time tested palm reading tactic making sure to keep it playful with clever, cute little negs about her future/past.

FLIRTING-this is more direct touching and slightly prolonged. You could touch a persons leg while talking to them, you could re-position them while teaching them to shoot pool, swing a golf club/tennis racquet, playful wrestling, put your arm around them, etc. It is quite obvious and women are aware of your intentions.

PRIMAL-this is when things are starting to heat up between you two and there is an obvious sexual chemistry. You could caress her face before you kiss her, bite her lip or tug the back of her hair. Hug her a little harder/longer than normal, a grope of her body parts is provocative.


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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Excellent post, I watched Pickup101's video of kino, this basically covers most of the issues.

LostAndConfused said:
Wow this guide was really helpful.

But what about girls who are oblivious to your kino? To whom a gentle caress or a touch on her shoulder means nothing?
She'll know, and if she doesn't, it's still going to have its effects.
 

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War Against Betaism said:
Excellent post, I watched Pickup101's video of kino, this basically covers most of the issues.



She'll know, and if she doesn't, it's still going to have its effects.
I hope it does. Do you know where I can find his video of kino?
 

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kino to connect

LostAndConfused said:
Wow this guide was really helpful.

But what about girls who are oblivious to your kino? To whom a gentle caress or a touch on her shoulder means nothing?
THATS an example of indirect.......solution is to be more direct. Increase the touch time exposure, move to a more DIRECT location on her body, and decrease the proximity between you.

dude just follow the steps, its chemical u cant say I will not create Oxytocin in my body........it just happens. IF you increase the frequecy of touching no woman can resist.

There are other factors at play here (your scent, your confidence level, the nature of your relatioship, other men-see hawthorne effect and or slut factor, etc)

But instead of constantly saying hey ya but what if she ummmmm---FORGET WHAT COULD GO WRONG and FOCUS on trying this stuff out...........then U can come back with a field report.

nuff said.......stop analysing and start Touching.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's a good layout i think...

My kino 101 is more or less automatic...

I notice that with people whom i'm only going to be friendly with, i touch the side of their shoulder, or their back between the shoulder, outside of the upper arm, back of the head, or put my hand on their neck, in a brief, superficial manner... Depending on the nature of the relationship (just met, known for a while, good friends, etc)...

While with people who'm i'm attracted to I touch the small of her back, sometime put my hand on her waist when i'm leaning in to say something in her ear, sometimes i'll brush her ear very briefly/accidental like with my lips while i'm saying something.

As things get more 'familiar', more chemistry, the touching gets a little more intimate. I'll grab her hand on and off, briefly, while talking as if sharing an intimate 'joke', I'll put my hand lower in her waist when leaning in to talk, like on her hip. Sometimes i'll gently 'poke' her stomach when she's poking some or other fun at me, or i'll rub her cheek/chin in a joking/sarcastic manner.

When things start getting romantic, touching get longer, more intimate/enjoyable. I'll gentle rub the front of her arm, or her stomach/side with the back of my index and middle finger, sometimes her thigh...

If she reciprocates, it pretty much moves slowly into 'feeling up' at this point...
 
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