kinda confused as to what she wants

[dentaldoc]

Hi guys im new to the forum an kinda confused with this one girl im taking to.

First off lemme say I met her on FB about 3 months ago, we talk, text everyday. I wanna say initiation is 50/50. We call each other baby, she tells me how much she likes me, has included me in her future plans, but everytime we try to meet somthing always seems to come up.

Whats wierd to is she will tell me how much she wishes I was with her at a given moment, or she will sext me during the day.

I confronted her about this last week an said I cant keep doing this an if it continues I am done; I also told her I feel as if she is just messing with me. She responded by telling me she would not mess around with a person she likes, and also asked me who screwed me over so badly that I think she is screwing with me.

So really what the hell is this?? You like me, claim to not be messing with me, but for some reason cant meet up ever...

 

[Hollow.man]

Call her, tell her to meet you (somewhere) at (sometime). If she doesn't commit/ offer a counter date, tell her she just failed the test and say bye. Leave it a few days.. Don't contact her at all. Don't reply to any texts. After a week or two, she'll be down to meet you. Guarantee it.

 

[dentaldoc]

Thanks for the adivce. I was going to call her tonight an set up plans for next saturday. Since everytime I talk to her she claims she has to check her calander..Idk maybe she plans a week ahead, no idea.

 

[Mike32ct]

Call her, tell her to meet you (somewhere) at (sometime). If she doesn't commit/ offer a counter date, tell her she just failed the test and say bye. Leave it a few days.. Don't contact her at all. Don't reply to any texts. After a week or two, she'll be down to meet you. Guarantee it.

I can't guarantee she'll want to meet, but it's otherwise good advice and worth a shot.

 

[Juan Don]

wow 3 months is a long time that you two haven't been able to meet up

 

[Mike32ct]

My only other comment is forget the "She doesn't know what she wants" thing. Delete that phrase from your brain. Women know EXACTLY what they want and don't want. We might not agree with it, but they know.

 

[Iceberg]

Hi guys im new to the forum an kinda confused with this one girl im taking to.

First off lemme say I met her on FB about 3 months ago, we talk, text everyday. I wanna say initiation is 50/50. We call each other baby, she tells me how much she likes me, has included me in her future plans, but everytime we try to meet somthing always seems to come up.

Talking every day. Calling each other "baby".

Come on, man. I don't treat GIRLFRIENDS like this, and you're doing it for some girl you've only talked to online.

I've been in similar situations. Talking to online chick - she always texts/calls - but she's never available to meet.

She gets the same treatment as any other girl. You give her 2 strikes. If she can't meet you after 2 specific offers to hang out, then she's playing games. It's not that damn hard to find time to see you.

So really what the hell is this?? You like me, claim to not be messing with me, but for some reason cant meet up ever...

The fact that this has been going on for 3 months tells you everything you need to know.

The only possible chance you have is to cut off the attention. That's the drug she's getting from you. Attention. Take it away, and see how she reacts. It might not work...but since you've never met her, that means attention is the only thing you're providing her with. See what happens when you withhold it.

But my gut is telling me that you should walk away. This situation makes you look desperate. You need to work on your confidence, my friend.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

She's doing enough to keep you interested without having to commit anything on her part.
Just ignore her.

 

[gaspipe]

Dude the last time this happened to me was with a chick I also met online. She would do essentially the same thing; say wonderful things but would always have an excuse not to meet up

After about 4 months she sent me a letter and a picture of her (which was totally different from her profile) apologizing that she lied to me about her profile and that she was embarrassed to meet in person because instead of the HB portrayed in her profile she was really an unattractive woman which her picture confirmed.

After being led on like that I felt quite betrayed and never spoke to this woman again.

Not saying this is the case but with online women you just never know who you are dealing with.