Kind Of Confused..

[In2theGame]

Whats up to everyone here!, Im new and finally decided to get up and write in the forums. Anyway.... I recently have interest in a girl i see around where i work. She works in a pharmacy so i usually step in to get things, Well... It goes like this.. She Would Smile at me and say hi everytime we see each other. i Smile and say hi back and we make alot of eye contact... She Glances over at me alot while im lookin at her (you guys know what i mean, That quick look women do to see if your checking them out).

Well i recently went in to get something and she walks by the Isle im on, We make eye contact and she Smiles big and says hi and i thought *great time to talk to her*... It went as so....

Me: Hey Whats your name (while smiling and keeping eye contact)

Her: (Smile) My name is **** .

Me: Nice to Meet you (smile), My name is ***.

Her: (Still Smiling)

Me: Sorry to bother you while your working.... But can i Call you sometime?
Her: (Smiles alot) I have a Boyfriend

Me: Oh,...You have a Boyfriend..... (kind of thinking, Whats going on..)

The rest was just small talk until she went on continuing work...
Anyway i know that wasnt the best way to go about it, But i really thought i had it in the bag with all the looks she was giving me. My Question to you Guys is what is the deal with so much eye contact, glances and big smiles at me if she had a boyfriend?? What was the purpose??. I mean, I have no problem attracting girls.. Ive been told by Many girls that im hot and gorgeous and get crazy stares when im out, Im not trying to sound full of myself but im confident to approach girls when they give me attention like this. Im really attracted to this girl and knowing she has a boyfriend now... How should i approach this... Should i just next her or see what happenes next time i see her?.

Ive Been reading alot on this site and on the forums and you guys seem to help out a great deal. Any Insight on this topic would be helpful.

Another thing, which is not related to this topic is... What the hell is the deal with Girls being completey rude or almost ignoring you, when ever your looking really good...? Self Esteem takes a hit sometimes when this happenes!

 

[Gonzalo]

It's fine that you've been exchanging glances and all, but still, when you first approach, before asking for the number/date/whatever, you need to build rapport. Think about it, why would she want to hand her number to a total stranger (as good looking as you might be)? But if you chat her up for a couple of minutes, and make her feel that she has a connection with you, she is not only more inclined to give you the number, but also to follow through and go on with the date later on. Then you won't hear the "I have a bf" lame excuse.

But you had balls to go for the number, that's the hardest part for many guys, so you are on your way. Check out the DJ bbible if you haven't already, it'll help you make better use of the board.

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[tmpgstx]

This girl is attracted to you. She does like you, and things with her boyfriend probably aren't that solid. She's just letting you know up front that she has a bf so it is no surprise later. If she really was into her bf that much, she wouldn't be giving you the time of day. Keep an open mind with her and take her cues in getting to know her.

Girls that ignore you completely either don't think they could have a guy like you ever, or they think you're conceded because you're good looking. In either case, they don't want to give you the satisfaction.

Do a thread search on this topic that goes something like "if you're really hot" or something to this effect.

 

[In2theGame]

"when you first approach, before asking for the number/date/whatever, you need to build rapport"

I know Gonz, I guess i felt that gut feeling of being sure i could bag the Number Easy from the attention... But Yeah your right.

 

[Tazman]

If you want to see something entertaining, ignore her and watch her reaction, she may have just wanted you to approach for the ego boost.

 

[In2theGame]

"If you want to see something entertaining, ignore her and watch her reaction, she may have just wanted you to approach for the ego boost."

You know what Taz... I know exactly what you mean, An example of this was not too long ago, There was this pretty hot Polish chick, Black long hair, Blue Eyes, cute smile...anyway.... She would stare and glance over at me alot... So we flirted here and there, and again i thought.... This is lookin good.... So i ask for her number and she smiles and says "my boyfriend would get Mad" so i was like okay whateva.

I saw her a couple of times after and we still flirted and she started talking to me more and more... so recently i ignored her... and she seemed very upset and would glance over at me but i would not make eye contact with her, she started acting very upset and walkin as if she is very! irritated but where i can see her. I just laughed at it but... the Point was... She wanted an Ego boost. The other girl im talking about in this topic though is not even hot, shes just normal but theres something about her that i find very attractive and would like to take her out. Since i finally asked for her number and she now knows that im interested in her, i wonder what her reation will be next time we see each other....