Kind of a noob question

[Matty]

After about a year of practicing, learning, and implementing DJ ideals into my daily life, I've finally found a girl that I feel I can bear for the long-term. This is a very seldom occurrence for me, so bear with my neurosis. We've been dating for a little over a month, and have been on roughly four dates. We see each other on average about once a week. I've never been in an actual relationship, so this is where my knowledge falls flat. How frequently do you talk to/see a girl at this stage of dating? She's dropped subtle hints at wanting to be my girlfriend, but I've avoided actually initiating the conversation ( I feel she should be the one to do so, but she's fairly timid, so the waiting game is on.) We talk about every other day via text, unless I'm calling her to let her know when we're hanging out. She more frequently initiates conversation than I do, so I guess I don't want to be the one the supercede her, and begin the be "needy". Also, last date I sent her a text about an hour after our date to wish her good luck on a family matter. Was that too hasty after our date? I have a tendency to over analyze and throw myself into a fit of circular logic, so keep that in mind while responding. ALso, any solid tips on how to keep things interesting?

Any feedback is much appreciated

Feel free to scoff, I know how you enjoy it so. :moon:

-Matt

 

[Captain]

The text after the date was fine.

I'd be cutting down on talking every day, though. Make her miss you.

 

[Matty]

The text after the date was fine.

I'd be cutting down on talking every day, though. Make her miss you.

I agree, actually. I try to space out my responses to her texts, that way we cover less in one conversation. She texts me far more frequently than I do her. Just feel kind of awkward ignoring her text messages.

 

[sodbuster]

At 4 dates, you are already overthinking things. You will find out some things in the future. If you want to date,go ahead-just don't lock yourself into marriage yet.