Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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kind of a different problem

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I normally don't exhibit proper grammar while talking online, but just for readability I'm going to for this first post.

Anyway, I'm a 10th grader. I'm the pianist in my high school's jazz band. There's a girl there, a drummer, who I found myself becoming attracted to (what can I say, drummer chicks are hot).

Now let me stop for a moment, cause you're probably thinking this is just going to be another one of those threads where the OP's only problem is he's too much of a wuss to ask the girl out. While that is a problem I have, it's something I could have muscled through myself just by reading threads and articles here. I'm sure you're all sick of hearing about that problem anyway.

No, my problem's a bit different, and I couldn't find anyone else here with a really similar one. Let's say I did ask her out successfully, but then something went wrong and it became awkward between us or worse. (and let's face it, in high school there'd be a good chance of that happening) Both the instruments we play are pretty important as far as jazz band goes, and we're both in the percussion section so there needs to be good chemistry. I fear that if aforementioned scenario happened, it might negatively affect how we perform, which would drag the rest of the band down as well.

Maybe I'm just making excuses for myself so I can chicken out like I always have, in which case I AM just a wuss whose only problem is that he's too much of a wuss.

My excuse for not doing it is pretty flimsy. Sure, it wouldn't be pleasant for either of us seeing each other every day if that scenario happened, but I guess it wouldn't affect band performance. Hell, Abbey Road is one of the tightest albums every produced and the Beatles all nearly hated each other by that point.

So now that I just came to that revelation while typing this, it turns out I probably am just another one of the wusses that you all get so tired of seeing every day.

Why am I still posting this? I dunno. Maybe someone has advice for me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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a) regret that you were too much of a 'wuss,' to ask her out
b) regret that you were too much of a 'wuss,' to ask her out

The Jazz Band will be fine. Just go for it.
 

War Against Betaism

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You're looking way too much into the future and setting yourself up with the worst case scenarios and making up excuses. What you'll learn later on is that women aren't the b1tches they are made out to be in the movies (well, most of the time), especially at the high school stage (unless you like beat her up or something or gave her a good reason to sabotage anything just to get back at you). If she was really into what she was doing and you do reach that point where you guys are fighting and it would be pretty awkward between the two of you, the worst thing she'll do is ignore you while you guys are playing. The only way it'll become a disaster is if YOU do something about it. I find that relationships are the total opposite of broken objects; you can't bring it back to its former glory by trying to fix it, and absolutely doing nothing about it could actually heal the wounds. Weird, I know, but it's something I've learned and noticed.
 

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I figured I was just making excuses for myself. I guess I just needed someone else to tell me that. All my friends I asked for advice just agreed with me and didn't really doubt my worst case scenario.

Now all I have to do is sack up and do it.
 

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I'm just trying to psyche myself up for it cause I don't wanna just keep thinking "oh, well I'll just do it next practice" after *****ing out every time.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Go Dude Go!
 

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Excellent post by Betaism, follow it
 
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