"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Killing neediness when crazy about a girl...

usernamedox11

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This is my problem with women...

When I meet a woman I'm not crazy about, even if she is attractive I can control myself...won't overtext, won't seem needy, nothing.

When I'm with a woman that just does it for me, my AFC behaviors come out. usually these are the more attractive women with options who play the "game," too. they purposely ignore texts, (i've seen girls I've hung out with purposely ignore texts of guys they like just to drive him crazy), and they are so in control of themselves. When I deal with these girls and I feel like I am being ignored if I send a text to hang out, I panic a little and start sending multiple texts, and that's when I lose. I'm not suppose to do that but I just get to the point where it's like fvck you, reply or fvck off, I know you saw my text.

How do I know these girls purposely ignore/delay their response to my my texts? I'll text them with a google voice number and they'll reply within the first 5 minutes asking "hey who is this?" And again, i've also seen very attractive girls I've hung out with as friends purposely ignore the texts of guys they actually like...just to drive him crazy.

Any idea how to manage neediness with girls you are crazy about?


Thing is, I know how to seem aloof in person and not say much. But over text or email, I write too much and you know girls don't look at substance, they look at subtext and figure I'm desperate or something.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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skinnyguy

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If the girl is interested, it won't matter what you do because you essentially can't mess up.

Dealing with low interest women is something that I'm trying to phase out now. Not worth the effort.
 

Stugots26

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applegoo, go buy the movie Gone Girl. Watch it any time you feel the oneitis creeping in and remember that even if the facts are different, any woman is capable of that kind of psychosis.
 

Between_The_Lines

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applegoo said:
When I meet a woman I'm not crazy about, even if she is attractive I can control myself...won't overtext, won't seem needy, nothing.
Keep one of these around at all times for self-reference, that way you'll be consulting yourself on how to proceed with the ones who bring out your inner beta.
 

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Between_The_Lines said:
Keep one of these around at all times for self-reference, that way you'll be consulting yourself on how to proceed with the ones who bring out your inner beta.
Absolutely. The best way to be able to gauge a woman's interest when you're not sure where you stand is to be able to objectively compare it with the high interest of another woman.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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RangerMIke

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Never date just one woman. Three seems to be the perfect number.

Never text or email then you won't worry when messages are being ignored.

Don't waste your time with women with low interest, it isn't any fun. If you are having trouble getting a woman to respond to you... that is low interest. A woman with high interest makes things easy for you.

Remember a woman's interest level is EVERYTHING. If she has low interest just move on, how you feel and your ego are non factors.
 

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skinnyguy said:
If the girl is interested, it won't matter what you do because you essentially can't mess up.

Dealing with low interest women is something that I'm trying to phase out now. Not worth the effort.
bullsh1t, if you consistently DLV like a true pu$$, she'll gradually fade until she disappears.
 

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I agree on not wasting time and emotional energy on girls with low il... the best way to stomp out that inner beta when a girl is out gaming you.. is simply man the f up.

Go get more girls... oneitis is death.
 

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MillionBillionaire said:
I agree on not wasting time and emotional energy on girls with low il... the best way to stomp out that inner beta when a girl is out gaming you.. is simply man the f up.

Go get more girls... oneitis is death.
if she's initially attracted to you, she becomes "low interest" when you act like a little b1tch.
 

Crazybeachisgone

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RangerMIke said:
Never date just one woman. Three seems to be the perfect number.

Never text or email then you won't worry when messages are being ignored.

Don't waste your time with women with low interest, it isn't any fun. If you are having trouble getting a woman to respond to you... that is low interest. A woman with high interest makes things easy for you.

Remember a woman's interest level is EVERYTHING. If she has low interest just move on, how you feel and your ego are non factors.
Love this, Spin a few at a time, keep your phone busy.

As my marine father said " Son,fire enough shots down the range your going to ****ing hit something."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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