skip2mylou1984
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some of us are players here, some are pimps, some are virgins, some are ho chasers.........either way, im sure 90% of us have approach anxiety at least SOMETIMES, and for those who still have that fear, you have the uncontrollable anxiety basically ALL THE TIME.
what have you been told so far to overcome your approach anxiety?? well, the OBVIOUS things:
"practice practice, the more u approach and get rejected, the less you'll fear it"
or
"be a ****ing man, don't be scared of a little 110 lb chick, have some goddamn balls!"
or
"work on your inner game" (this actually IS a good solution to most problems with women)
the above is very good and OBVIOUS advice. Well, I present you all with skip's advice, might be **** you've never heard before, and either way, these methods I am about to present you have been tested by me and proven to work for me 100%. I am very amazed actually at how these "X factors" in killing approach anxiety are very helpful, but never discussed or used.
I will present each factor and then provide an example of how it worked for me (I do get approach anxiety sometimes, no doubt about it)
1) MAKE YOURSELF BORED. What does that mean? turn off the TV, turn off the computer, turn off your cellphone, and go to an empty room. Bored? wouldn't it be GREAT if there was someone there you could talk to just to kill your ****ing boredom?? **** YEA!!! Well, obviously you are not gonna go to an empty room like a moron, BUT
seriously just go out, to a mall/club/store/ANYWHERE, and do absolutely ****ing nothing............i dont care how scared you are of approaching, YOU WILL BE BORED AS ****. And what happens when you are so bored??? something inside you WILL kick in, and you're gonna wanna just ****ing talk to people just for the hell of it, just to have SOME fun and kill the boredom. After you bore yourself for long enough, you will see a hot chick walk by you, and something amazing will happen - THE THOUGHT PROCESS IN YOUR HEAD WILL NO LONGER BE "I AM SCARED TO APPROACH HER". INSTEAD IT WILL BE "GOD I WANNA TALK TO HER SO BADLY, IM ****ING BORED". ANd what happens??
"hey whats up girl, whats your name?" ahhhhhh, the boredom is killed, and you have just approached without any anxiety. All your anxiety was re-focused from the chick to being bored - you were scared of being bored any longer and u just went and talked to a hot ***** without a second thought.
Personal Example of #1 - a million of these could be made..........but basically, anytime i have found myself waiting for something (aka sitting there for 20 minutes before a doctor appointment or job interview or some ****), i would end up being very eager to talk to someone there, and i always did. Another wonderful example of mine is when i was meeting up with a girl at the mall, and she was ****in like 30 minutes late.......i was BORED, had nothing to do, so i went and started approaching some chicks just cuz i was bored and wanted to kill time........and i ended up with a cute girl's # too 5 minutes before my date came hahaha
I think the boredom example is one of the best ways to kill approach anxiety, but there are others...........onto #2
#2) $$$$$$$.........what the **** does skip mean by this bull****?? haha, well its simple........what woudl you do if you were to LOSE MONEY every time u did not approach a girl that you thought was hot??? I'll tell you what, YOUD ****ING APPROACH HER CUZ U DONT WANNA LOSE YOUR MONEY!!!! Now, this tip IS a little outta left field, but those with approach anxiety will find this ABSOLUTELY 100% HELPFUL. Go out with a friend......literally MAKE A BET with him, saying that if u dont approach the next hot girl u see, u will give him $100.......or$200......make it an amount of money that u know u have, but u also would feel really really BAD about losing over something like an approach.
Ok, you make the bet, what happens to your brain?
dont approach = lose alot of $$, feel like **** for losing all that hard earned money over such a small thing
approach = keep your money
i gaurantee you, when you have a week's pay riding on ONE approach, the second u lay your eyes on a hottie, and your friend is right there waiting to take your money, the first THOUGHT in your head will be "**** i better not loset he money", and you will end up just ****ing approaching, and talking to the *****. You will not care about your approach anxiety, because all your anxiety will be focused on losing your $$. Oops, there's that word again, FOCUS, seems like something is up with that.
Personal Example of #2) When I was in highschool, before i ever had a first kiss or girlfriend, I made a bet to give my friend $20 AND to let him tell everyone I was gay if i did not approach a certain girl who i kept seeing and chickening out in talking to. Well, I was 5 seconds away from losing $20 and having the whole school call me gay.......then i overcame with anxiety of being a broke social retard, and i just ****ing WENT UP TO HER, SAID HI, AND WE STARTED TALKING. I WAS NOT NERVOUS WITH HER EITHER, BECAUSE I GAVE MYSELF THIS LIMIT AND I DIDNT CARE BOUT HER, I CARED ABOUT MY $$ AND MY STATUS (i pushed the envelope with the gay thing, but i KNEW i had to do that).
ANother example of #2) - Went to Montreal.......paying $150 per night to stay there, my friend is a dumbass and doesnt want to approach chicks, he's shy or something. I literally feel like me being in Montreal is a WASTE OF MONEY...........I focus my mind on making the trip worth the money its costing me, and what did i do?? I went out and stroke up conversations with DOZENS of very attractive french canadian chicks, without a single goddamn fear of approaching. Enough said
i had a 3rd example, but this post is wayy too long, so i'll just make it simple:
"don't jerk off, and your sexual urges will make you approach more and without much anxiety"
this had been a different insight for those with big time approach anxxiety, try my **** out, tell me if it works or not!
what have you been told so far to overcome your approach anxiety?? well, the OBVIOUS things:
"practice practice, the more u approach and get rejected, the less you'll fear it"
or
"be a ****ing man, don't be scared of a little 110 lb chick, have some goddamn balls!"
or
"work on your inner game" (this actually IS a good solution to most problems with women)
the above is very good and OBVIOUS advice. Well, I present you all with skip's advice, might be **** you've never heard before, and either way, these methods I am about to present you have been tested by me and proven to work for me 100%. I am very amazed actually at how these "X factors" in killing approach anxiety are very helpful, but never discussed or used.
I will present each factor and then provide an example of how it worked for me (I do get approach anxiety sometimes, no doubt about it)
1) MAKE YOURSELF BORED. What does that mean? turn off the TV, turn off the computer, turn off your cellphone, and go to an empty room. Bored? wouldn't it be GREAT if there was someone there you could talk to just to kill your ****ing boredom?? **** YEA!!! Well, obviously you are not gonna go to an empty room like a moron, BUT
seriously just go out, to a mall/club/store/ANYWHERE, and do absolutely ****ing nothing............i dont care how scared you are of approaching, YOU WILL BE BORED AS ****. And what happens when you are so bored??? something inside you WILL kick in, and you're gonna wanna just ****ing talk to people just for the hell of it, just to have SOME fun and kill the boredom. After you bore yourself for long enough, you will see a hot chick walk by you, and something amazing will happen - THE THOUGHT PROCESS IN YOUR HEAD WILL NO LONGER BE "I AM SCARED TO APPROACH HER". INSTEAD IT WILL BE "GOD I WANNA TALK TO HER SO BADLY, IM ****ING BORED". ANd what happens??
"hey whats up girl, whats your name?" ahhhhhh, the boredom is killed, and you have just approached without any anxiety. All your anxiety was re-focused from the chick to being bored - you were scared of being bored any longer and u just went and talked to a hot ***** without a second thought.
Personal Example of #1 - a million of these could be made..........but basically, anytime i have found myself waiting for something (aka sitting there for 20 minutes before a doctor appointment or job interview or some ****), i would end up being very eager to talk to someone there, and i always did. Another wonderful example of mine is when i was meeting up with a girl at the mall, and she was ****in like 30 minutes late.......i was BORED, had nothing to do, so i went and started approaching some chicks just cuz i was bored and wanted to kill time........and i ended up with a cute girl's # too 5 minutes before my date came hahaha
I think the boredom example is one of the best ways to kill approach anxiety, but there are others...........onto #2
#2) $$$$$$$.........what the **** does skip mean by this bull****?? haha, well its simple........what woudl you do if you were to LOSE MONEY every time u did not approach a girl that you thought was hot??? I'll tell you what, YOUD ****ING APPROACH HER CUZ U DONT WANNA LOSE YOUR MONEY!!!! Now, this tip IS a little outta left field, but those with approach anxiety will find this ABSOLUTELY 100% HELPFUL. Go out with a friend......literally MAKE A BET with him, saying that if u dont approach the next hot girl u see, u will give him $100.......or$200......make it an amount of money that u know u have, but u also would feel really really BAD about losing over something like an approach.
Ok, you make the bet, what happens to your brain?
dont approach = lose alot of $$, feel like **** for losing all that hard earned money over such a small thing
approach = keep your money
i gaurantee you, when you have a week's pay riding on ONE approach, the second u lay your eyes on a hottie, and your friend is right there waiting to take your money, the first THOUGHT in your head will be "**** i better not loset he money", and you will end up just ****ing approaching, and talking to the *****. You will not care about your approach anxiety, because all your anxiety will be focused on losing your $$. Oops, there's that word again, FOCUS, seems like something is up with that.
Personal Example of #2) When I was in highschool, before i ever had a first kiss or girlfriend, I made a bet to give my friend $20 AND to let him tell everyone I was gay if i did not approach a certain girl who i kept seeing and chickening out in talking to. Well, I was 5 seconds away from losing $20 and having the whole school call me gay.......then i overcame with anxiety of being a broke social retard, and i just ****ing WENT UP TO HER, SAID HI, AND WE STARTED TALKING. I WAS NOT NERVOUS WITH HER EITHER, BECAUSE I GAVE MYSELF THIS LIMIT AND I DIDNT CARE BOUT HER, I CARED ABOUT MY $$ AND MY STATUS (i pushed the envelope with the gay thing, but i KNEW i had to do that).
ANother example of #2) - Went to Montreal.......paying $150 per night to stay there, my friend is a dumbass and doesnt want to approach chicks, he's shy or something. I literally feel like me being in Montreal is a WASTE OF MONEY...........I focus my mind on making the trip worth the money its costing me, and what did i do?? I went out and stroke up conversations with DOZENS of very attractive french canadian chicks, without a single goddamn fear of approaching. Enough said
i had a 3rd example, but this post is wayy too long, so i'll just make it simple:
"don't jerk off, and your sexual urges will make you approach more and without much anxiety"
this had been a different insight for those with big time approach anxxiety, try my **** out, tell me if it works or not!