"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Killed attraction fast - can I bounce back?

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It's really making me question her maturity and conflict resolution skills. She framed it as if I kicked her out forever when I simply said we need some time apart to breathe an think since we've been butting heads for so long at this point.
Come on dude, this girl is TWENTY-ONE years old and you want the maturity of Michelle Obama.

Obviously she's basically telling me to contact her even though this is happening though my gut is telling me to keep up the NC and drive her a little crazier

Anyone have any thoughts?
I love how you use words like ''barely'' and ''obviously'' to try to rationalize her behaviour and/or love for you.

In my opinion, if you are playing this many games with this girl and she won't submit to what you are asking, her sex drive is not engaged and you are bordering on low interest. Maybe call her for the concert and say 'I'd like you to come.' If she doesn't, it's getting very dicey.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I completely recolonize how needy and pushy I was being. I want to make this work. The relationship was one of if not the best I've ever been in and I don't want to throw in the towel over one squabble...especially since we vibe so well personality wise.

The game here is she seems angry at me or not contacting (after 1 night) and I know in my heart its probably better not to react but she seems to be pushing for me to contact her regardless (not that women ever say anything that makes sense on this front) I'm thinking to just continue with NC for now
I completely recolonize how needy and pushy I was being. I want to make this work. The relationship was one of if not the best I've ever been in and I don't want to throw in the towel over one squabble...especially since we vibe so well personality wise.

The game here is she seems angry at me or not contacting (after 1 night) and I know in my heart its probably better not to react but she seems to be pushing for me to contact her regardless (not that women ever say anything that makes sense on this front) I'm thinking to just continue with NC for now

I'm in a similar boat, homie. My chick is 40, though, and was acting the same way so maturity doesn't necessarily come with age.

Definitely enact the soft NC. My girl's going through some family and school stress and instead of doing my natural instinct of pressing, asking and being needy, I've been soft NC for the last three days. Man, it was rough but she's noticeably acting differently, in a good way, and coming to me gradually. She knows I'm there for her at the very least and it seems to be working as she reached out to me first after a few days of soft NC.
 
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