Kids killing game

[Nutz]

I've had this happen twice now just this week. Things go fine first meeting, they're interested, I get their number, and we chat/text a few times. At some point I mention my boy and their tone changes. I can tell right away it's like a huge shock & disappointment. It's really a game ender for them a lot of times. I've got to figure out a way of broaching the subject that preserves as much interest as possible.

Any suggestions?

 

[scrouds]

Why do they need to know. Get them hooked, then when you say you have a kid, it won't matter.

 

[Warrior74]

I don't talk about my kid to new girls. Hold off on it as much as possible. Your goal is to get to know about them, let them beg for info about you. The whole be mysterious bit.


If they ask I tell. I tell them my schedule, I never badmouth her mother. Usually once they get to know me and they see how good of a father I am, they love it (sometimes a little too much, like wow, what a good dad, he'd be a good dad for my kids).

If they are younger and don't have kids, expect that to be a turn off. Which is why you don't tell em. Of course I won't consider a younger chic for a LTR anyway so it's none of their business. I was seeing this 21 year old for about 2 months before her dumb ass figured out I had a kid. I just never mentioned it. She was too dumb to keep but she still keeps calling. It never impacted her life so she didn't care. WHen I have my kid I don't bring girls around and I don't talk to them much during those weeks/weekends.

Older women with kids, will try to connect to you via your kids. They know your kids are your heart so they will try to get close to your kids to get close to you. My current girl has tried to meet my daughter, buy her a birthday present, and asks about her constantly.

Hope some of this helps. Good luck.

 

[penkitten]

being a single parent is hard stuff...

 

[Tictac]

I have 3 kids. And I'm older than you. But I've found that other than juggling my schedule so that I can actually go out, having kids isn't a problem.

That may be because most of the women I meet also have kids. If you're seeing women that don't have kids, you are going to have problems. They have no idea what you've got on your plate.

For me, between being a good father and a PUA, there is no choice. Being a good Dad is first. Any woman that doesn't get that won't cut it with me anyway.

The good news is that I'm having no problems at all, meeting women or getting laid. You don't have to lower your standards (the women I see are terrific). But you may need to adjust those standards to include women that have a prayer of knowing where you are. If you can't pull this off, be prepared to continue with problems.

Tictac