SeymourCake
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Exactly. Another way to think of it is acting the same around women as you would with a best guy friend. You are relaxed, funny, and you aren't "filtering" what you are going to say.I wouldn't be inclined to take relationship advice from the self-proclaimed "world's leading female advice expert for men". Having said that, she's not wrong in this case. If you don't care, you come across as more confident, relaxed, etc. But this is common knowledge and not exactly "guru level advice".
Sounds like she just read the DJ Bible. This is pretty common knowledge here. But never the less, it was good advice (strange coming from a woman).
The thing I always had an issue with was getting the woman invested in you. This way you can walk away and have her chase you. I quickly found out, though, that outcome independence was the only way. I always thought about the future and what could go wrong. A change in inner dialogue is the way to go
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How ironic! Apparently we do give a fu*k about what women love... we try to not care about women because we want them to love usWhy women love it when you don't give a FU*K
She can be also a lesbian but damn that chick is hot.Gotta respect her for going against the femigrain. I bet she has a lot of interesting arguments with her female friends. I like the way she says "fvck". Its like she puts emphasis on that word sounds sexy lol
I've read some of her stuff. She started out as an instructor working under some male PUA gurus whose names escape me at the moment. But she learned all her stuff from the same place most of us did, the male PUA movement. One might argue about how accurate that stuff is, but she's no worse than most, IMO.I wouldn't be inclined to take relationship advice from the self-proclaimed "world's leading female advice expert for men". Having said that, she's not wrong in this case.
Generally speaking, women are incapable of giving good dating advice to men. That's because what women think they want in a guy is rarely what actually attracts them. Have you ever heard a woman say "I want a guy who is good at playing with my emotions"? Probably not. But we've all heard women say that they want a nice guy who will treat them right. And we all know which strategy is more likely to succeed. A woman may try to give counter-intuitive advice that she picked up from some "PUA guru", but at best, it's going to be regurgitated common sense stuff.I've read some of her stuff. She started out as an instructor working under some male PUA gurus whose names escape me at the moment. But she learned all her stuff from the same place most of us did, the male PUA movement. One might argue about how accurate that stuff is, but she's no worse than most, IMO.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I have, of course, heard this point of view repeatedly on this forum. And generally, I agree with it. HOWEVER: That is not the same as saying that NO woman can ever give any good advice, which is how most on this forum seem to take it. Nor does it mean that every MAN's advice is necessarily golden. Some of the male PUA advice is, to me, overblown, hedonistic, self-rationalizing, laughable nonsense. Not all, but some.Generally speaking, women are incapable of giving good dating advice to men. That's because what women think they want in a guy is rarely what actually attracts them. Have you ever heard a woman say "I want a guy who is good at playing with my emotions"? Probably not. But we've all heard women say that they want a nice guy who will treat them right.