"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kev07's first cold approach!( and first time clubbin)

Kev07

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So i was on a cruise around hawaii this past week. on board the cruise ship is a club/bar/entertainment thing.

basically it's just shows and live music before 10:30 and after 10:30 it's a club/bar and they kick out anyone under the age of 18

So I was just sitting watching this newlywed game with my friend's dad and then show over they start the music and tell all people under 18 to leave(i'm 17). I was like HRMMM how would they ever know, so i just sat there a while longer then i decided that it would be the perfect time to go really put some of the stuff i learned here into effect.

I stand up and start scouting around the club for the hottest girl i could find and i found NONE (well there were a bunch but they were either already dancing with someone or sitting talking to someone) but I just kept looking around. then i notice this girl step off the dance floor and walk over to another girl and she sits down and they start chatting. this girl was pretty hot, if i had to give a rating, i'd say somewhere between 7.5-8.5.

I gather together my balls and i walk over to them and sit myself down next to her, and i introduce myself, she introduces herself and her sister, and i just say "care to dance with a 17 year old?" the response i get was a big smile and a bit of surprise and "yeah sure!"

so we hit the dance floor and while dancing facing her i make some small talk, and at the next song change i give her a little spin and we start grinding to 70's music (it was disco night at the ship club :rock:) Took me a while to find the beats to move to a disco song but when i did she started to really grind up on me. I was more of a boob guy before all this, now i'm not so sure anymore :rolleyes: though I cant really say how nice her ass looked because she was wearing a dress, but sure felt nice.

Anyways after this I must have fvcked up somewhere or maybe came on too strong because she started going cold after a few song changes. so i was just like, fvck this, and i said good night and headed off to sleep.


and that just about wraps up my first cold approach!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Distant Light

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Was nothing more than a dance. Really I wouldn't call it a cold approach but in the terms of what it means it is. The thing is everyone dances up with girls but you don't really pull them. Usually its best to attract off the dance floor and then go on the dance floor and dance. This was a typical every other guy move so you got the typical every other guy response. You had fun and thats all that counts at the end of the day.
 

Kev07

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it was off the floor, she was sitting down with her sister and i sat myself next to them and introduced myself. I didnt just dance up on her

but yeah what matters is i had fun and i will definetely be doing this more often in the future
 
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