Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Kettle weights workout. Is it of any use? Annoyed at my trainer.

Duracell_Bunny

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A second opinion would be appriciated on this.

My trainer is making me do this stupid circuit, which we do every now and again, like once every 2-3 weeks. I hired the guy to bulk up.

I'm getting a but peed off that he's making me do this thing almost every week. I've lost 5 pounds of muscle in November, yet October showed quality gains. Nothings changed regarding the diet plan. The only thing I can think thats different is this stupid workout that I hate, with passion. It seems to me its more like a cardio session and to gain a bit of strengh. It pushes me that hard that a couple of times we've had to cut it short as I ran off to the bathroom to be sick.

What the **** is this thing suppose to do? He normaly replaces a leg session with this, but this just makes me feel drained all over with my clothes drenched in sweat, rather than pumped.

All of this is using kettle weights, 16kg:

3 supersets of:
10 step ups each leg (holding two 16kgs)
10 squats (holding two 16kgs)
15 pressups

3 supersets of:
15 step up jumpy things while holding a kettle bell (like a step up but with a jump and knee is raised above 90 degrees on oposite leg)
10 clean and press (singles)
10 clean and squat (singles)

3 supersets of:
Walking lunges holding vipor above head (hollow tube that weights 12kb)
15 Pressups on the vipor
10 sholder presses on vipor

Workout lasts about 50-60mins. When failure is reached I don't move on until the number of reps are completed.

I can see this would be good for someone wanting to shred off some fat, but whats the purpose here?

He thinks the lost of muscle could be from not enough rest (not like in rest days, but as in staying up late at the weekends), also he's increasing my calorie intake although I don't think I could eat anymore than what I am now.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EFFORT

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Duracell_Bunny said:
A second opinion would be appriciated on this.

My trainer is making me do this stupid circuit, which we do every now and again, like once every 2-3 weeks. I hired the guy to bulk up.

I'm getting a but peed off that he's making me do this thing almost every week. I've lost 5 pounds of muscle in November, yet October showed quality gains. Nothings changed regarding the diet plan. The only thing I can think thats different is this stupid workout that I hate, with passion. It seems to me its more like a cardio session and to gain a bit of strengh. It pushes me that hard that a couple of times we've had to cut it short as I ran off to the bathroom to be sick.

What the **** is this thing suppose to do? He normaly replaces a leg session with this, but this just makes me feel drained all over with my clothes drenched in sweat, rather than pumped.

All of this is using kettle weights, 16kg:

3 supersets of:
10 step ups each leg (holding two 16kgs)
10 squats (holding two 16kgs)
15 pressups

3 supersets of:
15 step up jumpy things while holding a kettle bell (like a step up but with a jump and knee is raised above 90 degrees on oposite leg)
10 clean and press (singles)
10 clean and squat (singles)

3 supersets of:
Walking lunges holding vipor above head (hollow tube that weights 12kb)
15 Pressups on the vipor
10 sholder presses on vipor

Workout lasts about 50-60mins. When failure is reached I don't move on until the number of reps are completed.

I can see this would be good for someone wanting to shred off some fat, but whats the purpose here?

He thinks the lost of muscle could be from not enough rest (not like in rest days, but as in staying up late at the weekends), also he's increasing my calorie intake although I don't think I could eat anymore than what I am now.
Before hiring someone for a service, its important to research them extensively. I would focus on understanding his overall philosophy and methods, and also seeing the results of other clients. I'd also research a lot of other trainers as well to find the best fit for me and my goals.

If you did your research correctly ahead of time you shouldn't be in this position where your confused/surprised about the kettle balls. From what you posted this trainer probably isn't the best fit for your particular goals. I'd recommend ending things with him and then take a lot of time to research what it is your trying to accomplish and move forward. Take responsibility for this though, don't blame the trainer. Blame yourself instead for not making a researched decision on how you spent your money and time to reach your goals.
 

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You're pushing yourself which is good. It may not be in line with what you thought your goals are, but see value in being well rounded and athletic rather than just a gym gorilla meathead that has big muscles but can't really do anything besides lift heavy objects slowly.
 

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Not sure about the bulking, but crossfit/circuit training does wonders for cutting down without dramatically reducing your calorie intake and keeping muscle.
 

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Personal Trainer here. The routine you've outlined is for muscular endurance, cardio and cutting up not for bulking.Kettlebells are great for increasing power but the routine you wrote does not include the 3 top exercises for bulking squating deadlifting and pull ups! If you did body assessments prior you would probably see you lost fat perhaps, not muscle. Doesn't sound like this trainer knows how to put on mass.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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