"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have no problem attracting women to me. They seem to just come to me with high interest levels, but those interest levels don't go deeper than the physical...

I'm not trying to brag, but I'm trying to give some background. I believe I'm a somewhat decent looking guy. I'm 6' 1", I keep my skin nice, I jog daily, eat healthy, and I dress fashionably, yet while women will say I'm cute, attractive, etc... I am unable to keep them interested for longer than short periods of time!

Several of my women friends have told me it's because I don't seem like the type of guy that would take a relationship seriously. If that's the case, how can I turn this around and be the guy that women will want to be in a relationship with, instead of women thinking I'm a "player" even though I'm nothing of the sort, nor do I want to be!

Yeah, I'm sure you guys are all thinking, wtf?! I simply would prefer a relationship with one woman vs. attracting many and it having no meaning to me. It was great before, but I believe that I've matured enough to deserve something better and more meaningful.

Any suggestions? There is this girl that I've met and she asked me out to some local concert. She has already told me that she thinks I'm attractive, but she doesn't believe that I'm a nice guy! This girl hardly knows me! She's such a cool chick, and I'd like to be able to try something different than have things head to the way they usually do.

Thanks guys!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great thread.. I think we meed more discussions like this about how to keep a relationship going once we have it..

The single biggest DJ I know in real life, the ex-coworker who referred me to this site when he saw how AFC I was, summed it up and said this: "Be a complete DJ to get the chicks, 5th gear.. Then back off to maybe 3rd or 4th gear as you move forward in a serious LTR. But never completely back off of being a DJ, and most importantly, know the signs of falling IL and know when it's time to kick back into 5th gear again".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ChapStick said:
I have no problem attracting women to me. They seem to just come to me with high interest levels, but those interest levels don't go deeper than the physical...

I'm not trying to brag, but I'm trying to give some background. I believe I'm a somewhat decent looking guy. I'm 6' 1", I keep my skin nice, I jog daily, eat healthy, and I dress fashionably, yet while women will say I'm cute, attractive, etc... I am unable to keep them interested for longer than short periods of time!

Several of my women friends have told me it's because I don't seem like the type of guy that would take a relationship seriously. If that's the case, how can I turn this around and be the guy that women will want to be in a relationship with, instead of women thinking I'm a "player" even though I'm nothing of the sort, nor do I want to be!

Yeah, I'm sure you guys are all thinking, wtf?! I simply would prefer a relationship with one woman vs. attracting many and it having no meaning to me. It was great before, but I believe that I've matured enough to deserve something better and more meaningful.

Any suggestions? There is this girl that I've met and she asked me out to some local concert. She has already told me that she thinks I'm attractive, but she doesn't believe that I'm a nice guy! This girl hardly knows me! She's such a cool chick, and I'd like to be able to try something different than have things head to the way they usually do.

Thanks guys!
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What are YOU offering THEM by way of Relationships? In other words, what are you interactions consisting of?

Do you have meaningful conversations with them?
are you afraid of being exposed or vulnerable?
Are you acting very guraded and distant?

What kind of emotional intimacy do you offer the women in your life?

When they want to share something with you, do you distance yourself and become emotionally unavailable?

Are you easily distracted?Have a hard time maintaining focus on them, eye contact? Are you a good listener?

Do you understand what masculine romance is and accepting of that?

Do you shut off your feelings, or are you aware of them and are in control of them?

If theres a problem do you run away, or do you try to solve it or at least be supportive?

Remember, being viable and desired for your exclusive LTR qualities mean you have to add another dimension to yourself and your personality. This means that you have to be able to be COMFORTABLE Giving and Sharing AND maintain your Standards, Dignity, Self Respect and INTEGRITY At ALL TIMES too. YOU have to be able to 'put your foot down' and be able to walk away, no matter how much you love her.
Your resources are precious, RESPECT them. And if SHE doesn't , YOU WALK AWAY.



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