She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
^^ Exactly what I thought. Thanks bro.everywomanshero said:I don't think you need to keep them in suspense. If you've got everything right up until that point, the deal is pretty much already done and if you haven't then the deal is already a bust. Can you imagine Hugh Grant needing to plan out conversations to keep women in suspense? Can you imagine Pee-Wee Herman's success using all this pua crap?
This is great information bro. I like it a lot. If I was with a friend tho it would be a lot more useful to me. I was with my father, we were both trying to out game each other last night. haha . At the end of the night I went to go have a cigarette, and the other woman, the one who i didn't think was into me as much, went oh i want to go have a cigarette. That was literally a minute before we were going to head out. So I kissed them both of the cheek and said good night.everywomanshero said:I would recommend going one step beyond however far you think you should go and see what happens. At the very least I would've walked her to her car and did a little makeout and got her #. Especially, since you mention she's older, I would've called to make sure she made it home OK unless my gut told me she's had lots of problems with overly needy men. You can also have a friend come "pull you away", then come back later. Sometimes if you traded numbers as the friend pulled you away, the girl will even text you asking you to please come back.
If the girl seems flaky and you think you won't hear from her again, then I would recommend just closing the deal right then. There's no one way I've seen this happen. Often cave manning her ass will get her to suggest you two leave together or you can suggest it. Sometimes saying let's go get food works if she seems reserved about leaving with a guy. Sometimes it just isn't in the cards. Simply saying you've had a few drinks and want her to drop you off at your car the next day is good enough for the car issue. Unless you're in NYC, I would try to get something soon. Having a car is pretty handy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.