Keeping the FWB alive.

[BlahBBlah]

Hey everyone,

Been a little while since I've been here.

So I made friends with this new girl a while back, and then one night it turned into more. Eventually, we decided to become friends with benefits because of her recent break-up of her boyfriend of 4 years. She didn't want anything serious yet she was sexually attracted to me.

So we've been doing sexual activities most of the time we hang out, except lately she has been treating me more as a friend than a friend with benefits. We talked about it and basically she still thinks of us as friends with benefits, but we both agreed initially that we probably wouldn't be doing sexual stuff every time we hang out. The thing is, we haven't been doing anything for about two weeks now, and I'm starting to wonder if she's even sexually attracted to me anymore or is just going through some phase of some sort. I tried talking to her about it all and she doesn't seem stressed or depressed about anything else in her life (from what I can tell).

Lately she has been mentioning (very briefly usually) some other guy. Apparently they are just friends and have only hung out a few times. I am not going to make any assumptions obviously though.

So my question ... how to keep the sexual attraction going between us? I initially attracted her the most by the whole ****y and funny act as well as overall just treating her crappy (with her knowing that most of the time it's just a joke). And of course a lot of kino as well. But maybe I need to employ some new strategies or something. Any pointers anyone? I really like her as a friend by the way, but I am also sexually attracted to her and don't want to lose the benefits part of the friendship.

 

[dap]

Keep up with your ****-funny technique: If she isnt putting out, ditch her until she comes running back begging for it. This may never happen, but its better than waiting until you fit her scheduel. Remeber: you need to act as if you can get play for any number of girls, you don't need her.

 

[dap]

the "****-funny" was supposed to be "****y-funny"

 

[Cod3r]

Someone else is fvcking her better than you... basically


-Cod3r

 

[BlahBBlah]

Keep up with your ****-funny technique: If she isnt putting out, ditch her until she comes running back begging for it. This may never happen, but its better than waiting until you fit her scheduel. Remeber: you need to act as if you can get play for any number of girls, you don't need her.

Yeah, I'm not going to wait around for her like that. For those who are really successful on here: how do you guys employ the ****y and funny technique? Just curious.

 

[realsmoothie]

Someone else is fvcking her better than you... basically


-Cod3r

Not sure if she's actually F*CKING someone else but you're obviously not doing it well enough for her. She's bored.

 

[driveon]

women get bored ****ing the same guy and having it not escalate.... its the same thing for us guys... your on the bad end... dont beat yourself up, just tell yourself you 2 are done and its time to find some happiness somewhere else

 

[BlahBBlah]

Now I'm starting to get real suspicious ... she mentioned that he hung out with him for the last few days ... and she always talks about how it's "unhealthy" that we hang out too much. And plus she's going to hang out with him again this weekend. I mean, from what I can tell, there's nothing going on between them, but then again, you never know I guess. Blah ... I don't know man.

 

[pvf94]

so friends with benefits...but the sex has made you want more than that...and now you are becoming jealous because of the other fella?

Shes most likely fvckin him. Better bust out your pimp cain quick!

 

[BlahBBlah]

See like she was saying all of these things about him that she usually doesn't like (like the kind of music he listens to she doesn't like, etc.), but the fact that she's hanging out with him like all the time is worrying me. I mean, not to brag, but when we had sex, she orgasmed and everything, so I don't think I was inadequate or not sexual enough for her or something. I just don't get it.