Hey guys, new to post but I've been following the forum for quite some time..
After all my searching though, I haven't really found any reliable information as to how to handle this situation I'm in.
Basically, for the last few months of school I was hooking up with a girl that I've had a SERIOUS attraction to for quite some time. It was awesome but to be honest I didn't want it to become anything serious (as we were both leaving college for good come this past May). So what I mean by that is we only went out on a handful of "dates" but we were hooking up basically every night we went out to the bar and go wasted (nothing really sober"ish").
So that leads me to my predicament. This girl came to visit my city (not just for me) to see her friends, etc etc. We hung out, but considering I live an hour away from the city and she was going out of the country the following day, I didn't get too much poon. She was out of reach for 2 weeks and then when she returned she texted me and we obviously talked for a while.
Few days pass, I text her again and we talk for a little. That was this past Wednesday. I KNOW SHE IS MOVING TO MY CITY AT SOME POINT IN THIS SUMMER, I just don't know when, which is why I want this "flame" to still be lit upon her arrival. My goal is to take this relationship to the next step upon her return. So that leads me to my questions: 1) What can I do in order to keep this girl interested in me even though shes quite far from me? Text/Call her every now and then? Do nothing? I've never been in this situation before and don't know how to approach it.
2) How can I escalate our situation upon her arrival? Don't get me wrong I obviously know not to state my feelings to her until she does to me, but that clearly isn't going to happen until this moves into something more "real" and becomes something where were hanging out soberly A LOT.
Thanks for the help guys!
After all my searching though, I haven't really found any reliable information as to how to handle this situation I'm in.
Basically, for the last few months of school I was hooking up with a girl that I've had a SERIOUS attraction to for quite some time. It was awesome but to be honest I didn't want it to become anything serious (as we were both leaving college for good come this past May). So what I mean by that is we only went out on a handful of "dates" but we were hooking up basically every night we went out to the bar and go wasted (nothing really sober"ish").
So that leads me to my predicament. This girl came to visit my city (not just for me) to see her friends, etc etc. We hung out, but considering I live an hour away from the city and she was going out of the country the following day, I didn't get too much poon. She was out of reach for 2 weeks and then when she returned she texted me and we obviously talked for a while.
Few days pass, I text her again and we talk for a little. That was this past Wednesday. I KNOW SHE IS MOVING TO MY CITY AT SOME POINT IN THIS SUMMER, I just don't know when, which is why I want this "flame" to still be lit upon her arrival. My goal is to take this relationship to the next step upon her return. So that leads me to my questions: 1) What can I do in order to keep this girl interested in me even though shes quite far from me? Text/Call her every now and then? Do nothing? I've never been in this situation before and don't know how to approach it.
2) How can I escalate our situation upon her arrival? Don't get me wrong I obviously know not to state my feelings to her until she does to me, but that clearly isn't going to happen until this moves into something more "real" and becomes something where were hanging out soberly A LOT.
Thanks for the help guys!