"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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keeping small success from getting to your head

donArjun

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the art of djing is about micro-managing e.g.

the converstaion, the confidence, your look , you have to focus to make sure you up keep yourself -- in appearance etc.

however, when you get some small sucess, like a girl who gives you a date but didn't even have sex wit you -- you get a little too over happy and began to over look the small details that let you to sucess in the first place...

That is what happend to me, as soon as I got 1 date, I becamse supplicate and didn't approach as aggressively the next girl ( as if I had succeed, when I hadn't even gotten poony)


how can you prevent the sucess from getting to you , from you becoming overly happy and not approaching with aggression on your next approach ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pimp-sicle

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donArjun said:
the art of djing is about micro-managing e.g.

the converstaion, the confidence, your look , you have to focus to make sure you up keep yourself -- in appearance etc.

however, when you get some small sucess, like a girl who gives you a date but didn't even have sex wit you -- you get a little too over happy and began to over look the small details that let you to sucess in the first place...

That is what happend to me, as soon as I got 1 date, I becamse supplicate and didn't approach as aggressively the next girl ( as if I had succeed, when I hadn't even gotten poony)


how can you prevent the sucess from getting to you , from you becoming overly happy and not approaching with aggression on your next approach ?

The short term solution to your question is to sarge more often. Getting overly excited over a # close, a date or even a kiss close is a result of slim pickings. When your not consistenly active in the field, its easy to get overly excited over a date.

However, if your out in the field and going on at least one new date a week, it won't be that big of deal. You need to start approaching more often to graduate to the next step of being a successful DJ.





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Dont consider it a success untill you nail them. Its as simple as that. Dont post any excuse threads either.
 

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I agree with Pimp-sicle..

You need regular discipline. We'll have some success, and then give up on sarging. Why? Perhaps because we don't like to approach. But, a date or whatever is typically a short term thing. Discipline is what gives us the change of life.

I'm fine with feeling good about a date. But personally, I reward myself for the things I do control.. opening, starting convos, going for the close, trying something different. That's my part. Give yourself a big pat on the back for doing that. A girl can respond or not respond for soooo many reasons, I wouldn't read anything into any particular girl. They'll flake just because they like you..lol.. Jennifer Aniston stood up Brad Pitt at first because she was nervous.
 

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Being in that happy succesful state is what you want to be aiminig for. The more successfull you feel the more success you will have.

If you truely just want to knock yourself down just think of all your faliures... although i wouldn't recommend it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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