keeping relationships fresh!

[the_azn_fu]

heyyy! an LTR question..
anyone know of some ways to keep a relationship interesting and fresh!?
and things NOT to do to burn things out quick? thanks!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Do the same things that you did when you first started dating.

 

[Mission]

Wait for sex
Take up sports together
Be spontaneous
Don't see her too much

--Mission

 

[the_azn_fu]

weve already had sex numerous times.
we have summer school together so i see her everyday.
we talk every night.
um..
i can change the talk every night thing.
anything else?
thanks a lot

 

[Ace of Flames]

Go do things that neither of you have ever done, together. It'll be good for your relationship to experience new things as a couple.

 

[blinkwatt]

Everyone at my job says "blinkwatt,your nuts","your so spontanoues" or "your crazy". I think it comes back to the fact that I dont wait for what I want. If I want to have fine dining,I mean very high end food I have no problem driving a hour away to eat there at that very moment. It all comes back to my mentality of getting what I want,and I dont stop till I have it.
A good idea you can do(depending on your age),is take her out of town when you two hang out. My friends and I do this all the time. If we want to go look at Ferraris,Porsches or Lambos we drive a hour away just to look at them for 30 minutes,then there is still the hour drive back. Then we cruise around the rich neighborhoods exploring unknown areas,just cruising,plain and simple.

You could find out what her favorite type of food is(Italian,Mexican etc.) and take her out to the best food spot for that type of food. Call around a nearby city/town(any place it doesnt matter) and ask them "Hey I was wondering whats the best Mexican food place around?". It will be funny to hear how people react to you asking that question even though it may be a laundry mat you called. The fact that you are going to an unknown area together is mysterious,she will like it. After dinner you could cruise the town and see what it has to offer,kinda like site seeing.

Just remember never short change yourself. Dont say "oh well its too far",its just a drive,crank the radio and cruise. Dont say "I dont know that area",who cares,expand your knowledge,meet new people. This is what will help you keep stuff fresh. By the way my grandfather(R.I.P.) did this often,he would go to Napa from Sacramento(1.5hour drive) with his girlfriend for lunch,or to buy a hobby train.

 

[Ace of Flames]

I totally agree with you blinkwatt. People are so set in their ways sometimes, its just sad. "How can you drive out of town all of a sudden like that? You have to plan and save and blah blah blah...". They get bogged down with the same routine, and never bother to question it. No wonder people are depressed more and more often nowadays.

I just have to point out though, that this is the reason being spontaneous works so well. People get bored with their lives, and then someone like you or I comes along and makes things fun again. They feed off us, since we bring uncertainty and excitement with our spontaneous nature. Always knowing what's going to happen eliminates mystery and curiosity, and those are crucial elements to have in any circumstance.

P.S: Your grandfather sounds like an awesome guy. RIP indeed.