keeping in contact over the summer

[ne0phyte]

i basically started talking to a girl the last day of class. got her number and said we should hang out when school starts again. i wasn't planning to see her again until school starts again in august. but recently, on facebook, i saw she responded to another mutual guy friend's wall post. she initiated the desire to hang out with him. (guy asked how she was, she says let's meet up)

now i know girls always have options, etc. and i'm not caught up on this girl (haven't even been out yet). but as always wanting to improve, i'm curious how much contact i should initiate over this time, now that I know i have competition. Before, i was just planning to make a few comments once in a while on her fb until school started. should i do anything differently?

 

[mahoney]

i will say one thing about this

dont focus on the frequency of the contact, focus on the quality of the contact

its not how many times you speak to someone, its what you say to them

 

[Energy25]

I'm very interested in this topic as well. So far I've been letting the girl(s) do the initiating. I agree though, it's really about making sure the texting doesn't get boring, etc.

 

[ARrocket]

should i do anything differently?

NO, for several reasons.

1) First and foremost, you always have competition, with every girl you lay eyes on. You just happened to "see" some competition this time. Don't let it phase you.

2) You should be spending your summer bettering yourself and gaming as many girls as you can. This serves multiple purposes:

2a. You will not develop oneitis for this girl and do anything stupid like text her every day, etc.
2b. You will be happier.
2c. You will stand a better chance with her because you will gain confidence and experience.

3) Either this guy has game, or he doesn't. If he does, there's no way you can beat him out when he has a physical presence (at the moment) in her life and you don't, no matter how good your text game is. If he does not have game, then he will lose the girl himself, regardless of you. So, there is no point to you contacting over the summer IN THAT REGARD.

Now then, the final verdict? Keep your contact to a minimum. What I usually do is contact the girl 2-3 times during the summer. If you do the math, that's about once per month. I'll text her something funny/flirtatious, maybe send 3-5 texts back and forth. Do NOT get sucked into stupid long conversations (Facebook chat or something can replace this text if you wish). Keep it short and playful, leave something to be desired, ya know?

Spend your time working out, studying, macking on other chicks, etc. Contact this girl SPARINGLY. And then be ready to unleash the beast after the summer is over.

Also, mahoney speaks the truth.

EDIT: Just realized you asked this same question a couple weeks ago. What the hell dude?? You're gonna get the same responses. Geez now I want my last 5 minutes back...

 

[Energy25]

Now then, the final verdict? Keep your contact to a minimum. What I usually do is contact the girl 2-3 times during the summer. If you do the math, that's about once per month. I'll text her something funny/flirtatious, maybe send 3-5 texts back and forth.

So what do you suggest doing when she initiates a text 2-3 times per week? We talked a lot at school and she is 100% interested in me. Should I respond each time with about 3-5 texts each time? or ignore completely sometimes? Also, would it be better to just talk on the phone once every great while instead of texting at all? I feel like it would be a lot easier to spark attraction through flirting on the phone for about 15 minutes.

 

[ne0phyte]

thanks for the tips mahoney and ARrocket. but i don't know what you mean about me asking the same question a few weeks ago haha. i checked my last thread, and it was about an aggressive kino style. coincidentally enough, that's the guy this girl wants to hang out with.

 

[Energy25]

So what do you suggest doing when she initiates a text 2-3 times per week? We talked a lot at school and she is 100% interested in me. Should I respond each time with about 3-5 texts each time? or ignore completely sometimes? Also, would it be better to just talk on the phone once every great while instead of texting at all? I feel like it would be a lot easier to spark attraction through flirting on the phone for about 15 minutes.

Anybody have some thoughts on this? We live too far away to see each other this summer.