Charlie Hustle
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Let me first say that Im new to this here forum. But after reading over some of the discussions, I have to admit some of this stuff is really interesting and some is just damn funny for real. I really can’t believe some of you cats are really sharing intimate issues, thoughts and experiences about the opposite sex. We have definitely evolved as a species….Im proud of yall boys, because I know there are some women on this forum looking to get ideas, secrets etc. (yes we know yall have infiltrated this here site)
But with all the advice and discussions on getting at women, I notice there was nothing really about how to keep them for awhile once you “got them”. So with that said, this topic Im fittin to post is about maintenance my brothers maintaining the women you currently have or seek to have. In otherwords how do you keep your woman on your team without having to fully commitment? Because unfortunately playas commitment haunts you in every relationship….its the ultimate goal for every woman! This tip is for those who may have a woman they like and want to keep for the time being but not sure if they really want to commitment in the way she wants you to commitment. This advice is not for the average player in the game obviously, so if you are about fu*&ing and getting up (which is cool and sometimes necessary, just not for this discussion) this is not for you. But if you are about keeping a babe for a minute or two then take note, this just may help you out.
Now before we begin, we must make note that we do understand that there are women out there who want the same things as we do in relationship which is, no strings attached or no real commitment. But finding that ultimate chick is hard to find and if you think you got one it wont belong before she folds too…… they always do!
First step is, one must establish friendship (the earlier the better) unfortunately there is always a beginning and end to relationships the ones who establish friendships in the beginning usually can end a relationship being friendly. Im an advocate on not burning bridges with people especially when it comes to women, because you just never know what life brings you, times change, you have change and people change. You may attempt to try again one day so you want a back door if you will, that says yes lets try again. Friendships usually give you that back door key! So I try to maintain friendships if at all possible. Note: (Everyone doesn’t want to be your friend, but most women are open to it if you start off that way, so don’t be surprise if the friend approach gets rejected , try again, some need more warming up then others before pursuing her fully you dig) Friendships also helps you to deal with any if at all awkwardness throughout the relationship even if you find its just not going to work for both of you in the end. You can depart feeling hmmmm friendly..lol. Besides you have to know that most women enjoy being with guys she feels comfortable with, guys she can talk too, guys she can trust and usually those sort of guys are their male friends, see where Im going with this. So for those of you who are thinking its too late to establish a friendship, let me be the first to tell you its never too late for friendships, I wouldn’t be surprise if you guys already friends, not necessarily best friends, but friendly you know. If not, you may want to begin it now. Again only if you want to keep her around….if not then do you playa do you….lol
Next key to maintaining your current situation whatever it is…. Is doing what is required of you as the man in the relationship!!! Whether you think it will be a short term or long term relationship, whether its your main girl or side girl…. you do what is required and necessary to keep her for how ever long you want to keep her. Now what does that mean you ask? It means you play your part in the relationship as if you have committed yourself already! You play that role until you can’t either do it no more or until that heat starts coming around the corner and you know what that is. If you really like her doing your part wont be hard for you, but for those who have doubts or who still wants to keep one foot on the playing field and the other at home, you still have to play your part! Non participation on your part can lead too a very short relationship and it defeats the purpose of true maintenance in a relationship. Of course its hard work, HELL YEAH, and its even harder to maintain when the relationship begins to go south, but if you doing all the right moves then and stay focus and true to the game it will run smooth like a well oiled machine until you hit a bump in the road and you have to decide where to go….lol. It is also important to know that women have their own agendas and breaking points too so trust you can only try and maintain as long as she lets you before you will have to commitment for the long haul you dig. So for those who think they can hang on with what they have now for a good minute you probably can but note she has a set timeframe in her head too but whocares about here agenda, because this about “In the Meantime” maintenance” how do you maintain it for now fellas!
Also note that doing your part doesn’t always have to be about giving her flowers, acts of chivalry, fine dinning etc. Were talking about affection, spending time, listening, email, phone and doing things for her just because? Were also talking about being consistent in your actions, women are always looking for sudden pattern changes especially in the beginning when relationships tend to be too new, so one has to be constant in their roles and their actions throughout the relationship (hit me up I can explain more on this).
Last is good communication, this is actually the most pertinent piece. Good verbal communication keeps the relationship together fellas. Women need to know whats going on every now and then with you, with us, how you feel about her, the relationships, they need to hear compliments etc. No, you cant just tell them what they want to hear, you tell them whats up, give them the real you. They will respect you in the end whether they want to hear it or not. So guys if you lack in this area you need to get your game up quickly, your relationship wont last long without it.. The better your communication is the longer and bonafide the relationship becomes!
So there you have it, Establish Friendship (Early), Do your Part and Keep Good Communication. I can’t guarantee you foreverness with what you have, but I can guarantee you some extra time unless it has already run its course and she is tired of waiting. But for those who have someone they want to maintain for a minute apply these few steps see if it begins to work out for you….you’ll be surprise the reaction you will get from just doing your part and communicating a lot better. Again, if you didn’t get chance to start off as friend, it is never too late……just doing things like listening, talking, sharing will not only show that you care, but it shows you respect her for who she is. And in the end, if there is an end for some of you, hopefully she will continue to respect you and the relationship when you leave assuming you didn’t f&*k up before you left.
Hope this helps and Good Luck maintaining……
But with all the advice and discussions on getting at women, I notice there was nothing really about how to keep them for awhile once you “got them”. So with that said, this topic Im fittin to post is about maintenance my brothers maintaining the women you currently have or seek to have. In otherwords how do you keep your woman on your team without having to fully commitment? Because unfortunately playas commitment haunts you in every relationship….its the ultimate goal for every woman! This tip is for those who may have a woman they like and want to keep for the time being but not sure if they really want to commitment in the way she wants you to commitment. This advice is not for the average player in the game obviously, so if you are about fu*&ing and getting up (which is cool and sometimes necessary, just not for this discussion) this is not for you. But if you are about keeping a babe for a minute or two then take note, this just may help you out.
Now before we begin, we must make note that we do understand that there are women out there who want the same things as we do in relationship which is, no strings attached or no real commitment. But finding that ultimate chick is hard to find and if you think you got one it wont belong before she folds too…… they always do!
First step is, one must establish friendship (the earlier the better) unfortunately there is always a beginning and end to relationships the ones who establish friendships in the beginning usually can end a relationship being friendly. Im an advocate on not burning bridges with people especially when it comes to women, because you just never know what life brings you, times change, you have change and people change. You may attempt to try again one day so you want a back door if you will, that says yes lets try again. Friendships usually give you that back door key! So I try to maintain friendships if at all possible. Note: (Everyone doesn’t want to be your friend, but most women are open to it if you start off that way, so don’t be surprise if the friend approach gets rejected , try again, some need more warming up then others before pursuing her fully you dig) Friendships also helps you to deal with any if at all awkwardness throughout the relationship even if you find its just not going to work for both of you in the end. You can depart feeling hmmmm friendly..lol. Besides you have to know that most women enjoy being with guys she feels comfortable with, guys she can talk too, guys she can trust and usually those sort of guys are their male friends, see where Im going with this. So for those of you who are thinking its too late to establish a friendship, let me be the first to tell you its never too late for friendships, I wouldn’t be surprise if you guys already friends, not necessarily best friends, but friendly you know. If not, you may want to begin it now. Again only if you want to keep her around….if not then do you playa do you….lol
Next key to maintaining your current situation whatever it is…. Is doing what is required of you as the man in the relationship!!! Whether you think it will be a short term or long term relationship, whether its your main girl or side girl…. you do what is required and necessary to keep her for how ever long you want to keep her. Now what does that mean you ask? It means you play your part in the relationship as if you have committed yourself already! You play that role until you can’t either do it no more or until that heat starts coming around the corner and you know what that is. If you really like her doing your part wont be hard for you, but for those who have doubts or who still wants to keep one foot on the playing field and the other at home, you still have to play your part! Non participation on your part can lead too a very short relationship and it defeats the purpose of true maintenance in a relationship. Of course its hard work, HELL YEAH, and its even harder to maintain when the relationship begins to go south, but if you doing all the right moves then and stay focus and true to the game it will run smooth like a well oiled machine until you hit a bump in the road and you have to decide where to go….lol. It is also important to know that women have their own agendas and breaking points too so trust you can only try and maintain as long as she lets you before you will have to commitment for the long haul you dig. So for those who think they can hang on with what they have now for a good minute you probably can but note she has a set timeframe in her head too but whocares about here agenda, because this about “In the Meantime” maintenance” how do you maintain it for now fellas!
Also note that doing your part doesn’t always have to be about giving her flowers, acts of chivalry, fine dinning etc. Were talking about affection, spending time, listening, email, phone and doing things for her just because? Were also talking about being consistent in your actions, women are always looking for sudden pattern changes especially in the beginning when relationships tend to be too new, so one has to be constant in their roles and their actions throughout the relationship (hit me up I can explain more on this).
Last is good communication, this is actually the most pertinent piece. Good verbal communication keeps the relationship together fellas. Women need to know whats going on every now and then with you, with us, how you feel about her, the relationships, they need to hear compliments etc. No, you cant just tell them what they want to hear, you tell them whats up, give them the real you. They will respect you in the end whether they want to hear it or not. So guys if you lack in this area you need to get your game up quickly, your relationship wont last long without it.. The better your communication is the longer and bonafide the relationship becomes!
So there you have it, Establish Friendship (Early), Do your Part and Keep Good Communication. I can’t guarantee you foreverness with what you have, but I can guarantee you some extra time unless it has already run its course and she is tired of waiting. But for those who have someone they want to maintain for a minute apply these few steps see if it begins to work out for you….you’ll be surprise the reaction you will get from just doing your part and communicating a lot better. Again, if you didn’t get chance to start off as friend, it is never too late……just doing things like listening, talking, sharing will not only show that you care, but it shows you respect her for who she is. And in the end, if there is an end for some of you, hopefully she will continue to respect you and the relationship when you leave assuming you didn’t f&*k up before you left.
Hope this helps and Good Luck maintaining……
