Keeping a Relationship (LTR)

[aBAzLLnA]

I'll just add some quick tips here for those of you who are already in a relationship, and for those who may be venturing into the LTR zone.

First off, make sure you're happy in the relationship. You have to seriously look at how you and your girl interact, and see if you are, in fact, happy in the relationship. Many times, guys who go into a relationship for the first time thinking "oh ****, finally, I'm in a relationship" end up dating the girl just to be with someone. Wrong. You date a girl to be happier, that is to say, females should not be the only thing that makes you happy.

Ok, so you're happy in the relationship, second thing to keep in mind is that a relationship is about communication. Yes, communication. No bull**** in this one. If there' s a break in communication the relationship will not last. Good communication leads to less to zero fighting or arguing. My girl and I are in a 10 month'er and haven't had a major argument. (Later, I'll describe the right ways and wrong ways to argue, yes there are un-acceptable ways of arguing)

Finally, the last important thing I can think of at the moment is something called "sacrifice". A relationship isn't a self-automated machine, it needs sacrifice of energy and even one's own happiness at times. Doing things out of the way for your girlfriend, such as randomly buying her a rose, or taking her out to a nice dinner, will further bond your relationship.

Even though it is hard for you guys to admit, a relationship is more work for the guy, than the girl. We, as men, have the duty of giving pleasure to our women, but at the same time receiving it as well. We are the Gods of pleasure and we are what women desire. However, the only way to maintain this Godlike status is to keep a watchful eye, making sure that your woman does indeed reward you for what you're doing or what you've done. Furthermore never give too much pleasure to your woman. When I say that, I mean, being a nice guy who's always trying to impress his new g/f by constantly buying things and whatnot. You guys should get the idea by now.

Final note: A relationship is like a balance. Both parties are supposed to give equal amounts of energy into the relationship. If you find yourself giving more than your girl, she's using you. If you find she's giving more than you, watch yourself, you might get dropped.

 

[MightyMate]

Keeping a LTR is mad hard stuff.
Post not bad but i dont agree with some stuff.
Fights are needed. Without them You dont feel relatio. How people can really speak to each other and neve argue? Do You really speak with people hnestly and dont argue? Like parents, friends etc? Thats ****in not possible. And acting like You aint mad is not really an advice. When You are mad its not like You come to woman and say 'Hey i feel sorry You did that but im not mad' but You say ;'Dont ****in do it'. You are a man not a ***** or psychologyst. You dont need excuses. You are mad and thats enaugh.
And the MAIN wrong thing. Yes LTR is a balance. But its NOT POSSIBLE to stay 50/50. The sad thing is You have to stay max 40% [20-30% is best] so that she can take all rest of % and feel more excited about You than You feel about her. This is the only possibility how LTR can least.
Girls need emotions, need to be jealous etc. While man can only need sex. And be sue, if You will reall give just 40% shes gonna give 60%. You dont have to say or specially show it. Shes gonna feel it herself. Its magic, and its unfortunately true.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Some of what you say is true, however, I don't agree with the rest.

1) I can't see what people think fights are needed. They aren't. They come with relationships, but one thing to keep in mind is to decrease the amount of fights. Who the hell likes fighting anyway? In my LTR atm, we've had fights, yes, but nothing that ever lasted more than an hour, and the cooldown rate is usually another hour or two. But what I see in a lot of couples today is that they fight and fight and fight and fight... And they don't know what the hell is going on.

2) There are ways of speaking honestly with people without having them yell at you. It's all about the way you project your ideas. If you come to them with neutrally and sincere, most of the time they won't blow up on you..that is if they have common sense. And if they do, maybe it isn't worth your while.

'Hey i feel sorry You did that but im not mad' but You say ;'Dont ****in do it'. You are a man not a ***** or psychologyst."

There's your fault. This is what I'm talking about. It doesn't matter whether you're a psychologist or not, it's about remaining calm and sorting thing through. I understand it's hard to do and it might even make no sense to you, but if you just put away your ego when you're "fighting", it ends faster, and less painfully.

"Girls need emotions, need to be jealous etc. While man can only need sex."

I think you just oversimplify relationships here.

 

[MightyMate]

Of course ifghts dont least long, but they are happening thats what im talking about. And i still think mos man need mostly sex, and if woman give them enaugh sex and proper one, they wont get into other fights too much.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

It's pretty simple:

1. Don't do routine things all the time
2. Always be sexual
3. Do something really unique once in awhile.

 

[MightyMate]

Yes Monk. But proper fights are making 1 and 3 points done