Keeping a large pool of female friends/acquaintances

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The way my "game" (if you want to call it that) works is as follows: I keep in touch with a lot of different people from different social groups, I talk to just about anyone unless it's obvious they don't want to talk to me, and I generally like to go out and have a good time with everybody. I have lots of female friends that aren't really tight friends, but they end up at the same gatherings, nights out on the town, and concerts as me. It's just one giant web of people for me, that's how I like it.

Anyway, from time to time I hook up with these "friends" or friends of theirs. This happens pretty regularly.

I don't see many people talking about this sort of lifestyle. I see a lot of "lone wolf" styles being discussed. Does anyone else do this? Just get to know everybody and let the cards fall into place naturally? It's been way more successful for me than dealing with wingmen or cold approaches. It seems to me like social networking is more important than any of that other stuff... Or maybe this is just how college works.

 

[46and2aheadofme]

The way my "game" (if you want to call it that) works is as follows: I keep in touch with a lot of different people from different social groups, I talk to just about anyone unless it's obvious they don't want to talk to me, and I generally like to go out and have a good time with everybody. I have lots of female friends that aren't really tight friends, but they end up at the same gatherings, nights out on the town, and concerts as me. It's just one giant web of people for me, that's how I like it.

Anyway, from time to time I hook up with these "friends" or friends of theirs. This happens pretty regularly.

I don't see many people talking about this sort of lifestyle. I see a lot of "lone wolf" styles being discussed. Does anyone else do this? Just get to know everybody and let the cards fall into place naturally? It's been way more successful for me than dealing with wingmen or cold approaches. It seems to me like social networking is more important than any of that other stuff... Or maybe this is just how college works.

This is a HUGE part of what I do too.

But like you said, we are both in college which is a special case scenario where this is easy to do----Especially if you are involved in Greek life, clubs, student organizations, etc.

However, high school works differently and life after college works differently.

This is probably why this isn't focused on so much amongst threads and what not.

College is so unique, I think there should be a separate forum for it.

I say use it to your advantage while you can, but don't become so reliant on this tactic that you will have no success when you don't have access to such special circumstances.

I only have 1 year left, so I need to get better at cold approaching.

 

[omkara]

That's the way I prefer to do things. I just try to make the most out of the opportunities that present themselves in the course of my usual life. I don't go out of my way to get girlzzz. But if I want to get the really hot ones then I will have to either a) start doing cold approaches, b) expand my social circle, or c) start playing shows (music). The last 2 are good to do anyways. Right now I'm just trying to date average girls to learn how to talk to women, and build my confidence for doing all of the above.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

College...my god do I miss those days. Between being a Greek, selling drugs, and living in party central of our campus, I had so many women it was sick. I still do well, but I'm back in my rural area, where the fishing pond is not so deep. Cherish every fvcking day(night) you have left in college!

 

[Maxtro]

That's the kind of lifestyle that I want to have. I just don't know how to achieve it. I'm sick of being the lone wolf.

I've got two years of college left, I got to figure out how to make it work for me.

Edit:

I'm really thinking about frats for next semester. Though I'm going to be 28 when school gets back. I do look and act much younger than I am.

Are there any better ways to build a social life?

 

[Warrior74]

In college that's the way to go. Parties, fraternities, campus events and social groups. If you can't get laid in college you really are not trying! Now once you get into the real world its hard to maintain social groups. I'm a member of the chamber of commerce and several young professionals groups, I do fund raising various awareness walks...and I'm starting to meet more single professional women instead of going to the club and meeting low class skanks.

 

[Frog X]

I think the whole dropping in and out of peoples social circles is how it works in uni/college, definately fun because of the people you meet through other people.

I think its because the environment is so dynamic, you know like 1st year you make friends then you all go to different majors, but you keep in contact with most people so you end up with the 'network' you were talking about. So your not really seeing them all the time but when things come up like parties and other stuff you can just call them up and they are down for it.

 

[PSYCHO]

Keeping a large pool of female friends/acquaintances


I don't know why you want to keep a swimming pool full of friends and acquaintances... what are you going to do with them? Kinda odd.