Keepin it FRESH in the LTR

[Daniel1099]

one thing i have noticed that almost needs to be done in a relationship. is to act as an "as5 hole" sometimes.

This is what i meen by acting as an "as5 hole"

Lets say your LTR is busy with sports and stuff and her parents dont let her go out at all...

this gives you no time to spend with her...

although you and your LTR are still on good terms. things may start to get boring.

If you guys are always "happy" always texting/talking on the phone in a good mood it might get old...their needs to be ups and downs

now acting as an as5 and brining down the mood can give you an opening to a great "comeback".

NOW. this may all seem confusing. but let me give you a personal scenario.

Its thanksgiving break... i want to hang out with my girl....

she has cheer practice in the morning, work at night. and can only text for an hour a day, and is grounded....

i dont have work, or sports or anything so im always out and about hanging out doing stuff with my bros...

but their are times where i wana kick it with her, just like everyother bf & gf

anywayze...

3 days into thanksgiving break i call her up and we talk....

i start telling her like im "tired" of not bein able to hangout with my gf...

this is getting ridiculous...i dont wana comeover and see half a movie and play dr.mario...(usually when i comeover its only for an hour or so)

she comes back with..."i promise things will change when i get ungrouned, i hope..."

i tell her she should quit cheer because its hella dumb...

she is like "well you wouldnt quite playing drums for me...would you"

and just stuff like this

then i say " well i hope things do change, or i might have to find another girlfriend..."

she comes back saying "...whatever...your being rude"


*i can sense the sadness in her voice.*

we make a few more of these kinds of exchanges

the she tells me she has to go back to the party (its her cousins b-day or something). and then gives me a quite and airy. Bye.


now she walks back to whatever she was doin in a bad mood...thinking about us...and what she should do...what to text me tomorow...she is worrying about the relationship...now she wants to figure 5hit out and feel better...

so tomorow, il wait for her to text me first...and then i will slowly let her no that i was sorry for bein an as5 and such...

this kind of situation will also make her work for the relationship as well...she is an HB10. and thinks she can have whatever she wants with her looks...

this kind of behavior shows that SHE is the one making the relationship boring. etc.

i told her i wasnt going to church sunday morning because im going to a party Saturday night...that made her really sad...usually thats one of the few times we can see eachother....

but i will let her know sat afternoon that ill prob be able to make it...

and this will make her REALLY happy...i guarantee it

 

[MisterMcGee]

"...whatever...your being rude"

That's not a bad thing to hear if she has a sad tone in her voice. Don't worry too much about that response and don't apologize to her too straight-out. Make it up to her instead, that kinda thing.

I was reading and as soon as i saw that response, said in a sad tone, I imagined she was an HB9-10 and then you say at the end that she's an HB10.
I guess it's cause I experienced a similar response with this girl I like (but we're not going out so it's slightly different, but still).
Remember, she's a girl. Her saying you're rude doesn't mean she sees you as this rude dude. She FELT you were rude for that one moment. As long as you aren't actually a very rude person most of the time, and if you are nice and thoughtful most of the time, you're fine.

 

[Daniel1099]

yeah i know.

this wasnt a question.

i was simply saying this is something that should be done once in a while to create dramatic moments in the relationship...especially if she is a HB9-10...then they get tired and want to guys to talk and experiment with...

just keep it fresh, joke around, dont be seriouse, create those fun moments...

make her want to "kill you"...if u DJ's know what i meen...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Yup, I know what you mean. Girls even tell me how guys are too nice and arent a$$holes enough. Girls know the game better than us...

 

[Daniel1099]

yeah totally...

they want to have drama in their life...

thats why they watch The Hills, and the O.C, and shows like that...

they want to tell their friends that "daniel is being such an as$...read this text message"...blah blah blah...

then when i redeem my self. everything feels so much better and "new" and she likes me even more...

this kind of technique goes with the moment...you cant really plan out being an "ass"

 

[smoothtalker72]

starting fights just to "keep things interesting" will get you nowhere but alone. there are plenty more ways to do that other than being an "*******". doing more interesting things perhaps? regardless women have moodswings not men. to suddenly change moods "just because" will confuse the girl. you're right about one thing tho.... it will force her to think about the relationship. she'll be questioning why shes in it. in short... no need to be an ass for no reason.

 

[Daniel1099]

if she notices u have mood swings. it makes you unpredictable...and therefore more attractive...

if you cannot do interesting things, this is a good way to make it more interesting

 

[danthemann]

haha wow this is too wierd. Like the situation your in is sooo similar to mine. I read your post and was like "holy crap this is me and my girlfreind". my girlfreind grounded at the moment and lately ive been going to church with her just to be able to see her and hang out. I like your advice but my problem is being an a** for no reason. I wouldnt take being an a** so far that your telling her you might need to get a new girlfriend, but as long as you get her thinking about the relationship...i think itll work just as good.

 

[Daniel1099]

just make sure u dont take it to far...and make up for it. and tell her ur sorry or something...

 

[smoothtalker72]

if she notices u have mood swings. it makes you unpredictable...and therefore more attractive...

if you cannot do interesting things, this is a good way to make it more interesting

moodswings are something WOMEN have. not something MEN do to get the attention of women. women dont find moodswings in men attractive at all.

 

[jeffthechef]

eh i think what the guy who started this thread should've said is that women like to feel any sort of emotion...
they don't necessarily need drama...if you could keep a girl in ecstasy every minute you're with her or very often..she won't leave you..

starting fights is definitely not necessary...they'll happen on their own accord
make her feel..but don't force it or try to incite it...if you're a dj...it'll come naturally..so develop the mindset and these things will occur subconsciously

 

[Daniel1099]

yeah thats true Jeff...

i never though of it that way