my room is a total wreck. lol. lets not talk about my kitchen. okay...cleaning house tonight after work.
LOL, glad to see that I am not the only one in my 30s who still has issues in this department.
My experience with this same scenario: Met up with an HB7.5-8 whom I had met on a dating site. Date goes very well, and lasts about 7 hours (we closed the bar). She wants to go back to my place, she says to "See my house". I wasn't completely sure it had as much to do with sex as I think it may have had more to do with the fact that she was really into me, and wanted to make sure I wasn't married (common in online dating) or filling her some other lines of sh1t.
I tell her no, the house is too messy and I would be embarrassed. She actually starts to become irate, demanding to go back there, and saying I should trust here, that she wouldn't judge me, and that she was hurt that I thought she was like that. So trying to be a "nice guy" I say fine.
(as you can probably tell, this was about 1.5 years ago, before I knew any of this DJ stuff-ironically, it was one of the situations that drove me to this material-but this was also clearly a sh1t test that I failed miserably. Her demanding, me supplicating.)
We get back to this disaster I call a home, and not only does she judge me, she breaks my balls about it, saying it's clear that something is "wrong." This is why women can't be trusted this early on, because of examples like these. She did end up sleeping over that night (no sex, she pretty much passed out), and we went on like one other date, but I am certain this really screwed things up for me.
It was not my only experience with not being "prepared" for dating situations, but was clearly a memorable one in terms of what not to do.
Unless there is zero possibility of her coming back to your place-like if you're driving 3 hours to see her-always have a clean car and house. There was one other time where I was with an HB and she wanted to go to another place and wanted me to drive, but there was too much crap/work stuff in my car. It is a turn off for a lot of women (I've heard it termed "Lifestyle issues"), and it's not worth the running the risk of ruining a good thing over something that is so easily fixable.
The other important things I took away from this example-obviously, I found out later I was showing weakness by giving into her. But also, no matter how irrational she may think your motives are, if she is pushing for something that has a good chance of ending up being a DLV for you, stand your ground. Don't let her manipulate you into doing something that you feel isn't a good idea, no matter how good of a job she does trying to talk you into it.
