"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Keep your phone clean

muscleman

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I recently started doing this - cleaning out my phone of any girls with low/no interest level. Whether you think about it or not, if you have numbers of girls in your phone who are ex's, LJBFs, or girls with low interest levels, every time you scroll through your phone not only are you wasting time trying to get to your real contact, but on a lower level of consciousness you're reminded of all the girls you're not sleeping with. And let's not forget the obvious blooper: drunk dials. At least drunk dial someone you're messing around with.

It also helps you adopt the "my time is valuable" frame of mind. Why bother with someone who has little to no interest to you? It's highly unlikely (and incredibly inefficient) that they'll ever come around.

Finally, it helps you keep the Ashleys and Jessicas to a minimum so you don't get confused.

Having a bunch of numbers is not an ego boost. I only keep the following in my phone:

-family
-guy friends
-businesses
-girls with high levels of interest
-a couple girls (former FBs or similar) who I can use as tools for further networking

So clean yours out - you'll feel better once you do. And if that leaves you with only a couple girls, it'll put things into perspective: go approach!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AlexTheGreat

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Good tip!

There's always a bit of nostalgia when you go through your phone and see names of girls you've been with but you haven't seen in a long time. That's a depressor and needs to go away :)
 

Jitterbug

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I move useless numbers (past conquests, LJBFs, low interests) to an online spreadsheet. That way if I ever need to hit them up again, I still have the numbers, but my phone contact is clean.
 

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I adopted this policy a long time ago. I NEVER save a girl into my phone until I f-ck her. Until then, I keep her on a spreadhseet on my computer.

I don't have many girls in my phone. But at least I am not being an AFC contacting girls who are not interested.
 

Pie in the Sky

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Sounds good. The only disadvantage I see to this is when one of those people does actually call you you won't know until you answer the phone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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muscleman

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How is that a disadvantage? If they do call, you can ask "who is this". That signals that their lack of interest made you uninterested in them in return. If I don't have a girl's number in my phone and she calls, then "gets upset" because I don't remember her, I will politely explain that I only keep numbers in my phone of people I'm in regular contact with.

From then on one of two things will happen: said girl will become even more interested in you and ___ will take place, or she won't, in which case the status quo is preserved.
 
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Desert Fox

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Yeah basically only have a few numbers on my phone as well. Makes my life much more streamlined, and cuts out on day dreaming and talking on the phone less its necessary.

Basically just family, work, financial contacts, close friends I hang with. Good tip.
 
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