"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Keep your phone clean

muscleman

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I recently started doing this - cleaning out my phone of any girls with low/no interest level. Whether you think about it or not, if you have numbers of girls in your phone who are ex's, LJBFs, or girls with low interest levels, every time you scroll through your phone not only are you wasting time trying to get to your real contact, but on a lower level of consciousness you're reminded of all the girls you're not sleeping with. And let's not forget the obvious blooper: drunk dials. At least drunk dial someone you're messing around with.

It also helps you adopt the "my time is valuable" frame of mind. Why bother with someone who has little to no interest to you? It's highly unlikely (and incredibly inefficient) that they'll ever come around.

Finally, it helps you keep the Ashleys and Jessicas to a minimum so you don't get confused.

Having a bunch of numbers is not an ego boost. I only keep the following in my phone:

-family
-guy friends
-businesses
-girls with high levels of interest
-a couple girls (former FBs or similar) who I can use as tools for further networking

So clean yours out - you'll feel better once you do. And if that leaves you with only a couple girls, it'll put things into perspective: go approach!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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AlexTheGreat

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Good tip!

There's always a bit of nostalgia when you go through your phone and see names of girls you've been with but you haven't seen in a long time. That's a depressor and needs to go away :)
 

Jitterbug

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I move useless numbers (past conquests, LJBFs, low interests) to an online spreadsheet. That way if I ever need to hit them up again, I still have the numbers, but my phone contact is clean.
 

The Champ

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I adopted this policy a long time ago. I NEVER save a girl into my phone until I f-ck her. Until then, I keep her on a spreadhseet on my computer.

I don't have many girls in my phone. But at least I am not being an AFC contacting girls who are not interested.
 

Pie in the Sky

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Sounds good. The only disadvantage I see to this is when one of those people does actually call you you won't know until you answer the phone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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muscleman

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How is that a disadvantage? If they do call, you can ask "who is this". That signals that their lack of interest made you uninterested in them in return. If I don't have a girl's number in my phone and she calls, then "gets upset" because I don't remember her, I will politely explain that I only keep numbers in my phone of people I'm in regular contact with.

From then on one of two things will happen: said girl will become even more interested in you and ___ will take place, or she won't, in which case the status quo is preserved.
 
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Desert Fox

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Yeah basically only have a few numbers on my phone as well. Makes my life much more streamlined, and cuts out on day dreaming and talking on the phone less its necessary.

Basically just family, work, financial contacts, close friends I hang with. Good tip.
 
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