keep working on it or lost cause?

[meltbanana]

ok so theres this girl i've known for a long time but never got at all close to ya know. like we'd say hey at parties and shoot the **** for a second but we didn't really know anything about eachother. anyway a couple months ago we hung out randomly and it was cool. hung out a couple more times randomly then started talking pretty often. anyway it always was pretty flirty but it was always pretty drunk talk too. a couple weeks ago we got lunch kinda casual like (ie: not with the intention of being a date; didn't pay or anything we just ran around together to get school supplies and picked food). i realized she was pretty cool we got along real well and i kinda was into her. couple days ago she invites me to go to some art show downtown and i go with her. it's really really classy date type of thing and the whole time she's giving me really good signs like being real touchy and giggling lots about stupid things and playing with her hair.. ya know normal things that give you the sign a girl is into you. anyway we go to a party aftewards and it's a lota fun, we hang out about half the time and split up and mingle for a while but keep running back into eachother. anyway she drops me off and after coming in for a second to grab something heads out. i walk her out then after her saying how much fun she had and how we should do it again i go in to kiss her but she turns away and says no, seems flustered then kinda runs off.

anyway a couple minutes later i get a text: hey sorry don't feel bad about what just happened you just caught me totally off guard and i didn't want to lead you on..

i just say it's no biggie i had a good night and got signals mixed up. she appologizes tells me how much fun she had too then says she hopes we can still hang again soon. i just kinda play it cool and say it's not a big deal because it really isn't. anyway today (3ish?) days later i run into her at school and mention i need a model for a project and she volunteers. she then asks if it needs to be a nude thing which she said she'd be totally down to do (she's an art girl and isn't opposed to modeling naked for paintings) and then compliments me on a few random things and invites me to come downtown again in a day or two which i tell her i can't do before giving me a big hug and planning out when we can take pictures for the project i'm working on.

one more thing about my personality is that i'm consistently pretty bad about being clear to girls that i'm into them which i think is what happened here and why i caught her off guard.

basically i'm a little confused. does this sound like she might be interested and was startled, tired, and didn't know how to respond or have i been friendzoned? i don't really know if anyone of you can give me a solid answer on this, but i'd like to hear opinions and if anyone has any advice on how to find out without getting rejected again and if i could pull myself back into the game with her or if its just a lost cause.

oh yeah and i'm new on this forum thingmajig so if i broke some faux pas or posted in the wrong section my bad.

 

[crazyboy]

You sound like you been friendzone. When you first meet a woman you have to sexual with her from the start. One this make her uncomfortable which automatically take you out the friendzone. Two this make her do something be either accepting your sexual nature or pushing you away. The keep words in friend zone is long time. When you try kiss her it caught off guard because you were never sexual toward to began with ,so it was surpise. So she have every right to think that you guy had nothing going on. Because YOU never gave her the hints you never put arm around her grab her butt or something.

Now i guess you want to be de friend zone. To do this you must be able to lose her if you fail. If you can't do that then going stay in friend zone. Because your going have to be more sexual which going lead to her accepting it or pushing you away. Pushing you away is not a bad thing though because you can then not contact her and then hope gain attarction by her missing you. But you have to go no contact when that happen in you got go spin your plates.

 

[IamJosan]

Stop hanging out so much! Next time you go out with her at night try to kiss once more. If that doesn't work then it's not worth it.