Keep thinking about this one girl?

[gbmack]

There's this one girl that I met a couple weeks ago. We thought we were cute, i got her number, we started talking, we spent some time together, etc.

At first I didn't really care, as in I didn't really give a damn if she stopped showing interest in me. But the past 5 days or so I feel as if I've been caught in her trap. I can't stop thinking about her. If she texts late or talks in a certain manner, I immediately assume things and think a lot about it. Don't get me wrong, she's cute, and we both like each other, and I'm gonna take her out more often, but I just can't stop thinking about her... And that is what is killing my productivity. It stings if I go without contact with her for 24 hours.

I wanna still hook up with her, but how can I "loosen" my interest in her? If she rejected me or started to all-out ignore me, it would sting like a motherf****er. I just wanna be a little more cold-hearted so I can start acting "normal" again and not give a flying sh!t if she rejected me.

Or is there nothing I can do, and I just have to take this as a learning experience?

I'm thinking I should make her feel the same way as me. I may be overanalyzing this, but I think she's playing a sort of push-pull game. When she shows a lot of interest in me, I get excited. When she doesn't show interest, I start worrying a lot, and it sparks even more interest of her in me.

 

[Reckoning]

Reading this, I have to say, you are so screwed in the long run.

Just don't expect anything from her, it's for the best.

Separate yourself from any hopes and expectations you have about this girl.

This is the best piece of advice I can give you, it should prevent you from crying like a baby once you get disappointed. You won't get disappointed if you had no expectations about the whole thing whatsoever. I am telling you how to protect your heart, forget about the girl, in the end it's only your well-being that matters. You are developing a one-itis that is going to sting like hell + you'll probably get tied up in a knot when it comes to relations with this girl and you won't be able to let go, and neither will she for some reason (but not in the way you'd like).

I've been there, done that. Don't go there.

 

[Fly-err]

There's this one girl that I met a couple weeks ago. We thought we were cute, i got her number, we started talking, we spent some time together, etc.

At first I didn't really care, as in I didn't really give a damn if she stopped showing interest in me. But the past 5 days or so I feel as if I've been caught in her trap. I can't stop thinking about her. If she texts late or talks in a certain manner, I immediately assume things and think a lot about it. Don't get me wrong, she's cute, and we both like each other, and I'm gonna take her out more often, but I just can't stop thinking about her... And that is what is killing my productivity. It stings if I go without contact with her for 24 hours.

I wanna still hook up with her, but how can I "loosen" my interest in her? If she rejected me or started to all-out ignore me, it would sting like a motherf****er. I just wanna be a little more cold-hearted so I can start acting "normal" again and not give a flying sh!t if she rejected me.

Or is there nothing I can do, and I just have to take this as a learning experience?

I'm thinking I should make her feel the same way as me. I may be overanalyzing this, but I think she's playing a sort of push-pull game. When she shows a lot of interest in me, I get excited. When she doesn't show interest, I start worrying a lot, and it sparks even more interest of her in me.

Don't become her ***** that follows her every move. That'll get you no where and you would just keep on chasing her like the sucker most guys are.

What you are developing is oneitis and you need to either distract yourself with other girls or realize the main concept, you are the prize. Don't let her rule your life and direct every moment of it. If you think she feels the same way about you, play the same game she's playing and it will pay off later. There are plenty of girls out there so don't **** your life up thinking "she's the one."