Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Quiksilver said:
We are trying to make reputation mean something, to distinguish the quality members from the not-yet-enlightened ones. Please, if you see a thread/post that really clicks with you, send the member rep points. If you see a post that brings down the quality of the board, by all means send negative rep. If we all start doing this, it will be clear to everyone on the board who to listen to and who to take advice from with perhaps a little more than a grain of salt.

Congrats Karma, it seems people really did listen to what you wrote at LS and here in recent days.:up:
And I thought it was because my squat is now over 340 lbs? Or is it my beautiful bald head?

Anyway, thanks brother.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not to be a jerk or anything but looking at the list... who the heck been reping wutangfinancial? With exception to his posts on finances, I can't recall any posts or threads that would be of any merit and certainly not enoubh to be on page two above so many other prominent posters.

Ah whatever, I guess it is not my place anyway.
 

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Good job Alex disabled reputation points.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I never paid much attention before, and not given any rep points, but I do think it's a useful system so will be repping more in future.
 

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Nighthawk said:
I never paid much attention before, and not given any rep points, but I do think it's a useful system so will be repping more in future.
I think this was Penkitten's motive entirely. She's our den Mother always trying to get everyone to hold hands and sing.

We need to all REP HER!

Me first!
 

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TheHumanist said:
Not to be a jerk or anything but looking at the list... who the heck been reping wutangfinancial? With exception to his posts on finances, I can't recall any posts or threads that would be of any merit and certainly not enoubh to be on page two above so many other prominent posters.

Ah whatever, I guess it is not my place anyway.
I've repped his financial/business posts.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Unless you posted something there I didn't see (read a lot of your stuff there...)

LAME.
 

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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