"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Kailex's Journal
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Right before I did Tough Mudder, I was at my leanest and best shape. Over the winter, I joined a Crossfit gym and got lazy and went back up to 164. I quit that gym and decided to workout on my own. It's been two weeks and I've integrated stuff I did from my pre Tough Mudder workouts, barbell routines for Crossfit, and things I've read on these forums as well.
SoSuave as been monumental to my weight loss success, so I look forward to posting what I am doing in the coming weeks.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
And then you start hitting 1-2 a week. I realized that was normal. My early journal entries here showed how several SoSuave people gave me tips on how to eat better. The biggest change was in my nutrition. That made a BIG deal. I cut out the soda, white bread, white rice, white potatoes. That alone got me way down.
I think my first 60 lbs were lost just by eating well. And then the gym kicked in. Starting next Monday, I'll start posting what I am doing as well.
Another key thing for me was support. I had support from a few people (There are a lot of haters out there that will want you to GAIN weight) and SoSuave. Someone wanted me to do Tough Mudder so I did a 5 week program to get ready for it. I had never even done a 5K nor a mud race, so this was intimidating... and I managed to finish it all without a single problem. Back in 2009, there was no way I could ever see myself doing one in 2013.