"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Right before I did Tough Mudder, I was at my leanest and best shape. Over the winter, I joined a Crossfit gym and got lazy and went back up to 164. I quit that gym and decided to workout on my own. It's been two weeks and I've integrated stuff I did from my pre Tough Mudder workouts, barbell routines for Crossfit, and things I've read on these forums as well.
SoSuave as been monumental to my weight loss success, so I look forward to posting what I am doing in the coming weeks.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
And then you start hitting 1-2 a week. I realized that was normal. My early journal entries here showed how several SoSuave people gave me tips on how to eat better. The biggest change was in my nutrition. That made a BIG deal. I cut out the soda, white bread, white rice, white potatoes. That alone got me way down.
I think my first 60 lbs were lost just by eating well. And then the gym kicked in. Starting next Monday, I'll start posting what I am doing as well.
Another key thing for me was support. I had support from a few people (There are a lot of haters out there that will want you to GAIN weight) and SoSuave. Someone wanted me to do Tough Mudder so I did a 5 week program to get ready for it. I had never even done a 5K nor a mud race, so this was intimidating... and I managed to finish it all without a single problem. Back in 2009, there was no way I could ever see myself doing one in 2013.