"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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K, this is getting pretty serious now.

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Lately, I've felt myself slipping deeper and deeper into a dangerous depression. I don't seem to have motivation to meet chicks anymore, and can't seem to meet any for the life of me. Everything in life is losing purpose.
First off, let me say I used to come to this forum alot, so please don't give me the same old routine of "you need to be C&C", "you need to walk this way, talk that way". I didn't come for some special pickup line X number of dons here have said worked.
I came here for a new way of thinking. I'm currently at Uni, and I dont' know whats started to change.
At the start of Uni, I was happy, meeting peeps and chicks, but slowly I felt that slip.
Its just so hard to meet chick sexually. It always turns into a friend relationship, and eventually I just lose interest and momentum in them.
Sometimes I think its my physique. I guess I'm not a very good looking guy, so it gets tough with the chicks. Before any of you dons start throwing me the "its not about the looks", let me assure you, I've thought about that too, but how can a few lines every change? Imagine an unattractive chick coming up to you and running lines. Would it work?
To be honest, I don't know what's going on. Maybe its not about the physique, but everything is kinda blurred in my head. All I know is I have to get out of this fast, cuz I can't live like this. This is utter bull****.
I don't know if anyone can help, or if I even expect peeps to help, but if you do, it'll be appreciated. If anyone's been through a similar scenario, please share.
This is killing me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I didn't act like a b*tch. That's what I did ... b*tch.

Just kidding. You really should evaluate yourself ... are you out of shape? Exercise / diet right

Not looking hot? Shave, get a new haircut, get new clothes

Being idle for too long on the TV or computer may put anyone in a depressed state. Listening to music too much will dull your senses. Also being depressed will usually make a person have self-defeating thoughts. Be aware of that

Don't go expecting a lot in any situation with girls, it will prevent unnecessary dissapointment

Why don't you focus on other things like school/working out/making NORMAL friends for now?

I'm sure the regulars will provide better tips/information. Good luck kid.
 

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First off you are wrong in think "its the looks". I have a bigger then average nose and I get what I want. Granted the girls I get are not referred to as "dimes" or "10s",but I always receive compliments on the ladies I have. You are right it takes more then just a few lines,you have to have the right attitude,dress up/look clean and know how to push peoples buttons and be physical. It sounds like you need to be reborn sort of speak. Find a new hobby that you enjoy,if you have no job...get one.
 

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As someone stated above -- there are lots of things you can do about your looks: the way you do your hair, the way you dress, your physique - hit the gym hard! you'll feel better about yourself. focus on school and just making friends, start a hobby like playing guitar or something. feel good about yourself and girls will come by themselves.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Thanks for tips everyone. Forgot to mention this, which I should add in:
I have loads of friends, I have a very good and high paying job, have many hobbies, am directing a movie with many talented people worldwide, am a good beat boxer, break dancer, composer, computer animator, am focused at school... list goes on.
But you see, sometimes the depression hits and there's not a thing I can do about it. Its like... I dunno, all those years of being a kid and being fed by religion and conservative parents, conflicting with my current thoughts.
I have been slacking off at the gym lately. Used to go reguarly, but I guess I should step back in.
But yea, thanks for tips everyone, but lol, get a hobby? I think I have TOO many.
 

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There's a difference between being on top of your professional life and personal one. Good luck man :up:
 
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