"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jw, has anyone PURPOSELY tried being clingy..

Scars

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Just to get a girl off his nuts FOR GOOD? I'm kind of in a dilemma because there girl is underage (She told me she was 18 when she was really 16 and I didn't find out until after I had sex with her). Normally, I'd just straight ignore her afterward or just be a **** and tell her to leave me a lone, but I don't want her to retaliate and do something stupid, so I've devised a plan where I purposely "break the rules" until she loses enough interest to leave me a lone. Luckily, she lives a town away so I don't have to see her. I've been making up a lot of excuses to not go down and see her, I've been telling her I've been busy at work mostly (which is also very true), but she knows my work schedule and always wants to hang out on my "free time" in which I always have to pull something out of my @$$ on why I can't go. I'm thinking if I text her every day, telling her "I miss you" and maybe even I "love" you like 15 times a day she will get bored of me. It seems like a lot of work, but I'd rather put a week of clingyness into this b!tch then have her constantly annoying me for these next few months or doing something stupid.

Is this a stupid idea or what?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JCballin88

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I think this one girl seems like she's controlling your life too much as it is!

She lied, you ****ed her, you seem to regret it. Why should you, as an aspiring DJ, have to "break rules" and spend WAY more time than you should have to just to get her off your back? Delete/block her number, ignore her in person, etc. Unless you do still have feelings for her, this shouldn't be a big deal.

I would say just try to shut her off for good. Make sure it's clear that you are upset about her deceiving you, and that you have no room in your life for lying skanks.

Be the better guy and live your OWN life - don't let her dictate it any more than she already has!
 

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I'm not letting her control my life, I'm trying to be safe from a legal standpoint. I have ignored her, and it seems like it is only making her MORE interested in me. This girl is starting to show signs of BPD, so I just don't want any drama. I'd rather let this ease out smoothly. I have already tried blocking her number, but she finds ways to call/text me through other people's phones.
 

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yes, be super clingy and annoying (i think this is actually a really good idea!)
but dont just do "i love you"
send her updates about your life all the time

"im going to work now, miss you"
"im sleepy"
"im getting coffee at starbucks, wish you were here too"
"this coffee is gross, im going to dunkin now"
"**** i hate my boss"

and dont forget to ask "what are you doing" every 15 minutes
 

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dj_china said:
yes, be super clingy and annoying (i think this is actually a really good idea!)
but dont just do "i love you"
send her updates about your life all the time

"im going to work now, miss you"
"im sleepy"
"im getting coffee at starbucks, wish you were here too"
"this coffee is gross, im going to dunkin now"
"**** i hate my boss"

and dont forget to ask "what are you doing" every 15 minutes
LOL perfect
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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goodfoot

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That's sounds like a horrible idea from a legal standpoint. Think what would happen if those texts came out in a a court case.
 

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goodfoot said:
That's sounds like a horrible idea from a legal standpoint. Think what would happen if those texts came out in a a court case.

goodpoint, but i thought if they lied to you then u got off scott free?
i mean if she told u she was 16 and u ****ed her then ur ****ed
but if she said shes 18 and then turns out after shes not is that ur responsibility?
 

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Yah its fvcking stupid. You are afraid. Stop living in fear. Your in a possible bad spot, but its only a possiblity and what is the real likely hood that she's gonna go to the cops? Mostly its the parents who press the statutory rape charges...just taper off contact, start being busy and stop talking/texting her. You are making it worse by telling her you love her. Stop digging your own grave here.
 

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I don't think it will work man. It'll take more than week . She's a young girl, being more clingy will probably make her feel more confident that you like her, and she'll get the wrong idea and think you actually want to be with her.

You gotta man up and break up with her. Accept the responsibility of making the mistake of hooking up with her. And even if she does some stupid ****, it shoudn't scare you into comin up with this tactic.

You have to make it clear that its what you want and just do it right, even if she cries or gets mad, at least she'll understand eventually your situation. It sounds like ur original plan is prbly gonna backfire, but if u use some other excuse or try to play with her mind, she'll prbly hate you more when she realizes it, think ur less of a man, and will have a more reason to retaliate or watever u think she'll do.
 

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A girl her age, being clingy purposely to get ride of her will BACKFIRE. Her level of thinking is way below and she is probably thinking ( and telling her friends) she FOUND love. Avoid this strategy at all cost. Try treating her like your sister: Call her and say sh!ts like:
"Hey what did you do at school today?",
"Do you have any homework"?
"Did the guys hit on you at the supermarket?"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ask her for a threesome. You'll win either way that one turns out!
 

Jean Valjean

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no never tried it on purpose but had it work that way to get rid of them when I was all AFC clingy
 

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Pulling a Mogsby eh?
The girls 16 not 26. I would save that routine for somebody who's old enough to realize how a relationship is actually suppose to work. Otherwise it'd be a great idea.
 
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