"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just your average workplace predicament...

Badladman

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So, Ive been working at this place for almost 4 months now, and there is this chick that works there (So cliche, I know). Anyways, the first time I started, she kept staring at me, like really obviously. And me, being the complete dumb ass, didn't do anything.

The most I did, I caught her staring and I flashed a smile, then the same day tried to bring up a simple conversation. That's pretty much it though. Now, I occasionally just smile at her when I see her, and she always smiles back.

The main issue though is, we work in complete separate sections of the store, so I rarely get to see her, let alone start a conversation. Even if I did, I have no idea what to say to her.

I know this might seem like a natural case, but this is beginning to go on too long now, and I'm not even sure if she is interested. Starting to make me feel stupid, and think a bunch of **** that's probably not even true. So sosuave, any thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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backseatjuan

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There is nothing you can do with that girl. Friends is dangerous for you as you'll fall in love and cry. So what you do in life? Just go to work, home, no friends?
 

L B

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If this is a temporary job you don't care about, then I agree with bluenorther. A simple hello goes a long way.

If this is a career, don't dip in the company ink. Many drama/issues will follow you.
 

flashpoint

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"i luv your smile. my name is ... btw" different sections or not, 5 minutes to flirt shouldnt be a problem. obviously you DO see her from time to time, so dont be shy and jump at the opportunity before it gets awkward.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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