"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just when you think everything is good and closure has created relief from an ex, they sure know how to throw a grenade in your path.

Long story short, a year ago today, I proposed to my then girlfriend of 2.5 years. We broke up 8 months ago in February.

The breakup was clean, after a long argument I asked for the ring back. We tried several times to talk about the situation in the first 2 weeks after the breakup but I quickly got to the point of walking away and going strict No Contact.

The only contact we've had since was dealing with her as she was paying me back on my half of an entire house full of furniture that we bought together for our new house (That she bought).

Long story short, I woke up today to the following text message:

"Regardless of what our status is, in my mind today is always going to be our anniversary and the day you gave me the ring of my dreams".

When I first read it, I honestly got nauseous. Then I got pissed. Now I'm just like WTF???

Why would I drop the 3 chicks I am dating and spinning now to go back to something that she felt so strongly of walking away from?

I dont think its even a good idea to make her a plate at this point.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

BeTheChange

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Don't read into it. Means nothing.

Anyone can send a text. It's easy. Actions over words buddy.

Unless she truly hates your guts, women always like to know they can have you again if they decide to change their mind.

Respond and you're just showing her you're a good little beta who will fall in line and be ready once she gets tired of fvcking the guy she is currently with or he dumps her. Don't be that dude.
 

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Don't read into it. Means nothing.

Anyone can send a text. It's easy. Actions over words buddy.

Unless she truly hates your guts, women always like to know they can have you again if they decide to change their mind.

Respond and you're just showing her you're a good little beta who will fall in line and be ready once she gets tired of fvcking the guy she is currently with or he dumps her. Don't be that dude.
That's why I say let these b1tches call. Text is fine for dollar amounts and small little data details.

It's just too easy for them to feel they got you on the hook or for a shot of attention. Get her used to your voice and looking to hear it.
 

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Just when you think everything is good and closure has created relief from an ex, they sure know how to throw a grenade in your path.

Long story short, a year ago today, I proposed to my then girlfriend of 2.5 years. We broke up 8 months ago in February.

The breakup was clean, after a long argument I asked for the ring back. We tried several times to talk about the situation in the first 2 weeks after the breakup but I quickly got to the point of walking away and going strict No Contact.

The only contact we've had since was dealing with her as she was paying me back on my half of an entire house full of furniture that we bought together for our new house (That she bought).

Long story short, I woke up today to the following text message:

"Regardless of what our status is, in my mind today is always going to be our anniversary and the day you gave me the ring of my dreams".

When I first read it, I honestly got nauseous. Then I got pissed. Now I'm just like WTF???

Why would I drop the 3 chicks I am dating and spinning now to go back to something that she felt so strongly of walking away from?

I dont think its even a good idea to make her a plate at this point.
Just ignore her. Keep nc.
 
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