Just wanted to share a fulfilling course of events....

[Deadly_Ripped]

As a result of what I've read I was able to take myself out of oneitis, and actually begin to turn the tables on a chick.

I posted a while back about how awesome this chick is (she drives a beamer, owns the same computer, same family history, same quirkiness, family is rich, oh and did I mention she's 5'2 athletic blond hair blue eyes with 7 HOT piercings?)

I got a fantastic ******* and then I got way too worked up about her. My grades even suffered because I couldn't get her out of my head. I talked to her like every day and a couple of times I even found myself turning into that asexual chump who sits there and flips his wrist when talking. I was just floored by her confidence and, ultimately, by the degree to which she had earned my respect as I got to know her.

Well, I straight up asked her on a date and after saying no she cancelled on me twice to hang out, and I found out she was into this other guy. I realized that she only wants what she doesn't think she can get, and so I didn't talk to her for 3 weeks except for a chance happening on campus when we ran into each other while i was on my way to the gym.

Well after 3 weeks i talked to her and invited her to see a movie. We never made it to the movie because we got lost (she was driving her BMW) like 5 times on the way there (and the directions sucked). We ended up watching like 8 episodes of scrubs and we just chilled for like 6 hours. During that time she must've brought up things we should do in the future like 10 times.

We even have pet names for each other (mine is Christobel, hers is bananahammock). She went from never picking up her phone when I called, and always calling me back like 30min to 6 hours later, all the way to picking up on the first ring and messaging me on AIM on the reg. I know she isn't looking for a relationship, but she definitely has bitted HARD and now I can enjoy the idea of making her wonder what I'm up to that makes me too busy to talk to her, instead of the other way around. If she's just going to **** with me again, she's going to have a much much much harder time this go-around.

Thanks to this website I got over the oneitis, and got a chance at getting her back in bed because holy crapola this girl is BLAZIN in that non-*****y sort of way that makes me crazy.... lol I gotta watch out for that oneitis!!!

 

[edmond]

Well done and thanks for sharing your story.

 

[cyp6]

dotn talk to her ever day....... be too busy to hang out... or she will be back to her old self.

 

[Centaurion]

Congratulations, you just became her wannabe-gay-male-friend.

Hope things work out for you two.

:rock:

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

I guess we'll have to wait a few weeks to find out if that's true or not... I'm hoping you're wrong, but yeah I'm worried that even though I get a good vibe it's nothing more than her flirtatiousness coming out.

 

[wayword]

5'2 athletic blond hair blue eyes with 7 HOT piercings?)

I found out she was into this other guy. I realized that she only wants what she doesn't think she can get, and so I didn't talk to her for 3 weeks

Were you and Skip getting sprung on the same girl?

 

[Scrumtulescence]

What the hell is so "HOT" about piercings? "Ooooh, she's alright looking, but HOLY SH1T look at the metal rods sticking out of her skin! It's boner time!"

 

[Nighthawk]

I posted a while back about how awesome this chick is (she drives a beamer, owns the same computer,

Soulmates.

Sorry to rain on your parade but sounds like you're firmly in the friendzone. Why didn't you make a move during your Scrubs-fest? If you're back at yours it's no time to play hard to get.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

No, but it sounds similar. She never straight up told me that she's confused. She is really calculating, but she's ultra sly about it. I read people very well and the first time through with her I had a hard time getting a read. She plays the innocent sweet quirky girl really well, but she's an attention-whoring "entertain me" sort of girl, so as of now I'm just trying to stay as emotionally uninvolved as possible. That's what got my panties in a bunch originally, because I didn't know she just loves attention and isn't going for any sort of committed relationship at all. I just lacked the self control to keep her chasing me.

And when I say that I respect her, I do. I respect her work ethic and discipline. Those are the hottest things a women can have aside from her body. personality? Whatever. Peronality doesn't bring home the bread unless you're in sales. Discipline, work ethic, character, and a non-dependancy are what I enjoy in a woman, and she's got almost checks across that board.

So who knows, he and I might go to the same college.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Nighthawk, I already got a fantastic BJ the first time through, and I kept bringing it up and other things like it and we were at her place in 2 adjacent chairs so it wasn't exactly the easiest to bridge that gap (the chairs are always like that, they weren't rearranged so the loveseat was out of position to the TV). Within the next few times hanging out with her I'm going to kiss her. If she doesn't go for it, then whatever I'm still friends with her roomates. And if she does go for it, then I'm going ot take a couple of pics of her and me together, so when I'm 50 I'll look at those pics and be like, yeah I hit that.

I did some kino during the scrubs-fest and she and I talked about sex a lot. I even threw her calculating cool a little off-tilt when she told me to hurry up getting sculpted abs by asking her what made her think she'd get a chance to see them? This girl doesn't go for anyone who's not hard to get. I've seen her melt on a guy who's playing hard to get. From what I've seen I just need to make myself scarce, but keep up enough contact so she doesn't forget about me.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Oneitis is coming back, and it's only been like 2 days since we hung out...... I am in trouble now!

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

It finally worked!!!!

I backed off, and every time she suggested we do something I gave her a maybe or a probably not. Every time she complimented how much she likes hanging out with me I just shrugged it off or said yep or something like that.

I just got my nipple pierced with this girl and she got another spot on her ear pierced. She obviously thinks about me outside of when were hanging out because she has talked to a mutual teacher about me (we're both Teacher's Assistants for different classes with the same instructor), and she has talked to a mutual friend who told me she seems very interested AT LEAST in friendship. I know for a fact this girl has major trust issues, and while she'll give a BJ the second time we hang out, she has only has sex with 4 guys ever. I keep up kino and I am always bringing up sex, to which she usually responds with laighter. Do you all think it's possible that a girl might actually want to start out as friends and escalate into more? It really seems like she legitimately wants to take things slow. Any thoughts? Has anyone personally ever met a girl who legitimately wanted to take things slow and then it actually did escalate into a relationship?