"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just tossing out some brand names...

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For those of you looking to update your wardrobe, look up some brands such as...

Croft and Barrow
Apt. 9
Axcess


I went shopping today and thsoe were basically the three brands that kept popping up when I picked up something I liked. They're relatively dressy, but I like them.

Heres some links for you
Axcess - This is the Kohl's website, where I found my clothes today. Some of the shirts are your typical looking polo or button up, however there are some very dressy looking shirts, and some dressy pants. The pants are VERY comfortable I might add.

Apt. 9 - Same thing for these. Apparently they don't have their own website, so I keep finding the Kohl's website.

Croft & Barrow - Looks like everything is at Kohls. Croft and Barrow also has some polo shirts and more casual looking clothing, for those of you who aren't feeling the dressy appearance. Tomorrow I'll post some images of the clothes I bought. Hopefully it'll give you a taste of what they look like ON somebody.

Salvatore Ferragamo - More European style. The clothes seem to have a "model" ish type look to them, however with the right mixing and matching, can be very sleek and stylish. If you end up looking at women's stuff, click the "man" up in the upper right hand corner of the page. (Suggested by SELF-MASTERY)
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm going to add links to the main post.
 
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