I went to school today thinking I was going to be one smooth mofo getting all new friends and what not, but I guess I must act differently then I do in the mirror. Some (negative) things I noticed about myself:
1.) I overanalyzed everything I was going to say because I wanted to say something no one could make fun of. And then I ended up not saying it at all.
2.) I tried starting conversations with people but its hard holding them. I used free-association to try to keep the convo going but I couldn't.
3.) I was tensed up in classes with people who were my enemies. Again, watching what I said/did in fear of being embarrassed by them.
I was going to just stop trying to start conversations with people since it obviously wasnt working. I tried it on 3 people, which is somewhat a lot for me since I'm just not trying to get out of the shy faze. What I'd do is be like "Hey, do you go here last year? What school? Whyd you come here?" and then it would just go downhill from there.
Plus theres this girl I want to get to know but I dont know what to do. I was thinking about just going up to her and saying "Hey my name's EBA" but in my mind that wouldn't work at all.
Anyways, does anyone have any ideas/advice on how I can just not give a ****, period. Just be able to what I want to do without worrying if someone will say something or whatever. I'm going to try tomorrow to just visualize Im in my house (a comfortable place) and act as I would there. Because at school everything from my voice to my mannerisms are different.
Thanks in advance.
1.) I overanalyzed everything I was going to say because I wanted to say something no one could make fun of. And then I ended up not saying it at all.
2.) I tried starting conversations with people but its hard holding them. I used free-association to try to keep the convo going but I couldn't.
3.) I was tensed up in classes with people who were my enemies. Again, watching what I said/did in fear of being embarrassed by them.
I was going to just stop trying to start conversations with people since it obviously wasnt working. I tried it on 3 people, which is somewhat a lot for me since I'm just not trying to get out of the shy faze. What I'd do is be like "Hey, do you go here last year? What school? Whyd you come here?" and then it would just go downhill from there.
Plus theres this girl I want to get to know but I dont know what to do. I was thinking about just going up to her and saying "Hey my name's EBA" but in my mind that wouldn't work at all.
Anyways, does anyone have any ideas/advice on how I can just not give a ****, period. Just be able to what I want to do without worrying if someone will say something or whatever. I'm going to try tomorrow to just visualize Im in my house (a comfortable place) and act as I would there. Because at school everything from my voice to my mannerisms are different.
Thanks in advance.
