"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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**** just stalled out

JulioGG

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Hi Alphas and Don Juans.
Been lurking for some weeks and told myself it was just time to join the crew.
Checking in for some advice onto how should I proceed.

Im 23, shes turning 20.
Met a new girl in german class 5 weeks ago (once a week), we started going together since we live near each other, she texts A LOT, made out 2 days later (after presenting me her friends), got a date the next week, made out again.. next 2 dates attempts failed because she was busy and gave me no counteroffer (so no meetup in the last 3 weeks aside from going together to class), next weeks she started taking longer to answer my texts (I started doing the same) and short convos drag out for days and it's cracking me up (I cant keep a convo like this). So, our last convo (started this past thursday evening) goes as follows:

HER: Julio :smiley: :smiley:
HER: No need to wait for me tomorrow for class.
HER: I don't think I'll go this week
ME: (no answer, I didn't think it was necessary)

After friday class
ME: *send photo* the homework, in case you think you'll go next week jajaja

Next day (Saturday):
HER: Thanks!!!
HER: Got any notes on yesterdays lesson?
ME: (some hours later) Nah, I wasn't very focused.
HER: (some hours later at 1:20AM) jajajajaja ah so nice of you
HER: what would your fathers say after paying the classes...

Next day (Sunday):
ME: Well, at least I go to class :smiley: (in reference to her not going)
HER: (some hours later in the evening, 1AM) Bookworm :rolling eyes emoji:

Today:
I have decided to not answer the text for now (a ****ing 1 word tease?!), since I have no clue what to say and feel the convo died out there.

Starting to get fed up with her (but she's still kinda nice and I don't want harsh feelings in class) and I think it's affecting my texting (since I could have written better things than "at least I go to class", like something ****y like "no need to focus, im too smart").

Do you think there's a better response to her last message rather than silence?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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El Payaso

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If you asked her out twice and she rejected both times without a counter offer, it means she's not interested.

Right now, you're approaching the territory of e-orbiter. That's if you're not already there. Drop the texting. You're just comfort validation to her.

If she texts you again, respond and then ask her out. Straight to the point. If she rejects again without a solid counter, delete her and cut all contact. Unless you enjoy wasting your time.
 

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Thanks El Payaso.
So going back to basic assertive, honest, C&F, aggresive face to face talking when we go together to class again, as I was doing the first days of class. Letting her know what the deal is all about.
NC until then.
And no texting unless she is the first to text and the last to text (ending whatever convo before her).
 

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Hi Alphas and Don Juans.
Been lurking for some weeks and told myself it was just time to join the crew.
Checking in for some advice onto how should I proceed.

Im 23, shes turning 20.
Met a new girl in german class 5 weeks ago (once a week), we started going together since we live near each other, she texts A LOT, made out 2 days later (after presenting me her friends), got a date the next week, made out again.. next 2 dates attempts failed because she was busy and gave me no counteroffer (so no meetup in the last 3 weeks aside from going together to class), next weeks she started taking longer to answer my texts (I started doing the same) and short convos drag out for days and it's cracking me up (I cant keep a convo like this). So, our last convo (started this past thursday evening) goes as follows:

HER: Julio :smiley: :smiley:
HER: No need to wait for me tomorrow for class.
HER: I don't think I'll go this week
ME: (no answer, I didn't think it was necessary)

After friday class
ME: *send photo* the homework, in case you think you'll go next week jajaja

Next day (Saturday):
HER: Thanks!!!
HER: Got any notes on yesterdays lesson?
ME: (some hours later) Nah, I wasn't very focused.
HER: (some hours later at 1:20AM) jajajajaja ah so nice of you
HER: what would your fathers say after paying the classes...

Next day (Sunday):
ME: Well, at least I go to class :smiley: (in reference to her not going)
HER: (some hours later in the evening, 1AM) Bookworm :rolling eyes emoji:

Today:
I have decided to not answer the text for now (a ****ing 1 word tease?!), since I have no clue what to say and feel the convo died out there.

Starting to get fed up with her (but she's still kinda nice and I don't want harsh feelings in class) and I think it's affecting my texting (since I could have written better things than "at least I go to class", like something ****y like "no need to focus, im too smart").

Do you think there's a better response to her last message rather than silence?
Better response would be :

Next.

She isn't interested. Stop wasting your time.
 
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